Post # 1
So, I was reading another post on here and it got me thinking about centerpieces. I’ve been to lots of weddings, and some (but not all) allowed the centerpieces to be taken at the end of the day. Typically they were simple vases with flowers or candles, so it wasn’t a big deal.
However, my centerpieces are going to be made up of blue Ball Jars and lots of found pieces that I have very lovingly curated. I’ve scoured thrift stores, ebay, etsy, you name it in order to get all this stuff. I don’t want everything walking away!
I understand if people want to take some of our flowers. I get that- they’ll die while we’re gone on our honeymoon anyway. But how do I keep my glass collection from walking away?
So far the only thing I’ve thought of is to get bouquet wraps for people to take the flowers home, and hope that people get the hint that the glass isn’t up for grabs.
Am I the only one who doesn’t want their centerpieces to walk off?
Post # 3
Have the MC include a little comment about how you hope they are enjoying all the lovely pieces in the table decor which “are part of the bride’s personal collection”. He can also announce that the flowers can be taken home and that you have bouquet wraps available.
In addition, ask family members and close friends to monitor the situation.
Post # 4
i second the MC announcement idea
Post # 5
Yeah, I thought of that, I just worried that it might seem tacky. The weddings I’ve been to have never formally announced that centerpieces were up for grabs… I’ve always just seen people carrying them off, and then I’ll ask someone if they are in fact up for grabs (typically the bride if I’m friends with her or someone who I know will know for sure) and if I get a yes then I’ll snag one as well if I like them.
If they weren’t pieces that I’ve grown attached to I wouldn’t care. I just know that while I personally don’t ever take things without making sure it’s ok, not everyone has the same inclination.
Post # 6
I’ve heard of people taping them to the tables… if someone tries to take one and it won’t come off, they should get the message!
Post # 7
Dude, people STEAL centerpieces? I’ve never heard of this! Who looks at a centerpiece and thinks, “Oh, hey, this’d look good in my house! I think I’m going to have this.”?
Post # 9
@Statutory Grape: haha that’s pretty much my thought, but in some parts of the country it’s tradition, I know my mom wouldn’t think twice about taking a centerpiece, maybe that’s just what they did back then. I hope mine aren’t stolen!
Post # 10
@Statutory Grape: The thought behind this is usually that the couple doesn’t want to mess with all that stuff after the wedding, so by taking them you are actually helping them out by reducing the clutter they have to deal with…. (or at least this is what I am told)
Which is all well and good if you just went to the store and bought 50 identical vases and seriously don’t want more than one or two. But when you’ve been collecting things piece by piece for months, and you want to sell some of it to other brides after, you don’t really want them walking away…. (I know that those blue jars are coveted, and I’m lucky to live in Indiana, where they are easier to find)
Post # 11
Maybe you can just have a table with bags or something to put the flowers in and have a sign saying something like feel free to take the flowers at the end of the night.
I did the same thing, spent forever finding my favorite vases/pitchers at thrift stores, garage sales, antique stores, etc. I didn’t think about it before, and everyone started asking if they could have them. I figured I wasn’t going to do anything with them and they’d just take up space, so I let them go.
Post # 12
@Baby_PebbleS: lol yes!
@tinylittlebird: yea i think this is kind of weird bc most weddings I’ve been to (or at least half maybe) the centerpieces have been at least in part rented from a florist or decorator! I think an MC announcement is definitely the way to go.
Post # 13
I don’t know if this would work with your flower vision- but could you make little bouquets (already tied,) to sit in the vase? Then maybe tape down?
Post # 14
Along with the MC’s announcement, you can make a game out of it. The person who gets to take home the flower part is….the next person with a birthday or something (you make it up). That way, the MC isn’t just making an “announcement”, which I can apprecate may look tacky, but if you’re announcing who gets to take home the centrepiece, make a game out of it, people will forget about the glass.
Post # 15
We planned to re-use our centerpieces the next morning at our brunch. Honestly, no one touched a single one of the centerpieces or tried to take anything. I saw you are in IN too so I bet you also wouldn’t have an issue. If it is common anywhere (because I’ve certainly never seen someone walk off with a centerpiece), I don’t think it is common in IN.
Post # 16
Please inform your caterers and/or the people helping at your wedding in advance. I was at a wedding a few weeks ago. I asked a server if I could take the centerpieces (the servers were lining them up at the end of the night) and she said to please take it. It turns out the bride was planning on selling them and I felt AWFUL. I had asked and had checked for a note on the bottom of the vase, there was nothing, so I carried it home.
A note on the bottom would let people know as well. Or if they do take your vase, they’ll return it. “These are heirloom, please return to the bride. Thanks.”