(Closed) How to kindly explain to people I'm not having bacholette/bridal shower

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
45627 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

“Thank you so much for the offer to host a shower/bachelorette. You are a dear friend/relative/sister . I am so lucky to have you in my life.  I have chosen not to have a shower/backelorette. I am asking you  to respect that decision. I can’t wait till the wedding,not only to be united with your brother/son/grandson/ dear friend ____, but also to be surrounded by all the people I love, including you.”

Post # 4
94 posts
Worker bee

I’m in the same situation. FSIL kindly offered to host a shower, but it will mainly be for FH’s family, as my family and friends all live in different states. FH agreed, so I went along with it, even though I now have to drive SIX HOURS to my shower. My MOH (only bridal attendant) tried to plan a bachelorette, though I had to to tell her I just don’t want one. 90% of the friends I’d care to spend a day with love out of state, and I honestly don’t have the time. I did agree that she and I would have a spa day the week of the wedding.

So to address your question (finally, lol), just decline graciously. It shouldn’t be looked upon unfavorably.

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