Post # 1
I’m having a hard time with my dress, because I still don’t have that feeling that I have the most absolutely perfect dress.
I don’t live near fancy boutiques and I’m always working, so dress shopping is kind of a challenge (plus I’m getting married in a few months). I was able to go do David’s Bridal and tried all the designers dresses that were interesting to me and ended up buying the Oleg Cassini CWG568. I’ve seen other brides here that were super excited about this dress and even though it’s beautiful, I’m always thinking if it’s enough for what I want. Some people look for a romantic look, others for sophisticated, what I really was going for was a very detailed ball gown with a huge wow factor. The bodice of the Oleg Cassini is beautiful in this sense, but it has a ruffle skirt without any beads or lace. Long story short, I like it (well, I bought it), but I keep thinking I wanted something more glamourous.
There are a few things holding me back from trying to look for another dress:
1/ I already bought this one and can’t return it
2/ It’s hard for me to go to a fancier place because of distance and time, plus I’m super stresses with the rest of the wedding plans, I’m not sure I have the energy
3/ From my experience, some dresses look really good in the models pro photos, but no so much in real life/people. Sometimes is the other way around (I hate the model photo of this Oleg Cassini), but mostly I keep telling myself that it isn’t because the model looks great in some dress that it’s going to look like that in real life.
4/ The other dresses that I kind of liked tend to cost 3x-5x more. I can afford it, but I’m not sure I want to (I could if I totally loved the dress).
So my question is, how do I know if I have the right dress? Should I try to look for more? The 4 points above keep preventing me to do so, and I’m not sure if it’s the dress or if I’m the one that will never be satisfied.
Post # 2
- Wedding: October 2015 - The Vineyard and Winery at Lost Creek, VA
I would say if you love the way you feel and move in your dress, and like you don’t want to take it off – that’s your dress.
Don’t stress yourself out !
Post # 3
“Kind of liked” is not good enough. No need to drop cash on something you lukewarm to. On the other hand, you sound lukewarm to your purchased dress, so maybe you should go and see other stores. In the worst case scenario, if you end up buying another dress, just sell Oleg. you need to feel so excited to wear your dress and if you dont feel any happiness then you need to look elsewhere. If you don’t see anything great, then fine, at least you tried.
Post # 4
I had a really difficult time figuring out ‘the dress’ was as well. I tried on about 70 dresses (probably gave myself too many options) and nothing ever made me emotional, or super wowed or anything like that. But today, I found a dress that was about $1000 cheaper than all the others I was leaning towards, and it just felt like a wedding dress. I was really drawn to it, looking back at the photos, I looked good in it, and the price was perfect. Family liked it so I went with it.
So…you might still have doubts, which I have even after buying ‘the dress’, but if you feel nice in it and could see yourself wearing it and being happy, keep it. You can always add extra details to it if you wanted to glamour it up. Add accessories, or even add some beading or lace to the skirt!
Post # 5
I didn’t have a “this is the dress moment”. I like my dress :), but I knew I didn’t want to spend out of my price range. It looks good on me, done deal.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2016 - Vineyard & Winery
I didn’t think the “omg, this is my dress” moment was a real thing until it actually happened to me. After about 3 months, 100+ dresses tried on and countless bridal shops…I went out yet again to a random bridal shop as a last-ditch effort, was looking among the racks and spotted “THE DRESS”. Literally, just seeing it on the rack I immediately thought “this is my dress” – w/o even trying it on. As soon as I put it on I was very moved; I just KNEW. I’m not a crier so I didn’t have tears or anything, just an immense joy and sense of relief! I felt really beautiful in a dress that was 10 sizes too large. It had every single element I had been searching for.
I also knew it was the one b/c with every other dress I liked, I would take a picture and send it to my BM’s or my mom, asking “what do you think?” B/c I was unsure about it. With this one, I had zero desire to do that. I could care less what anyone else thought; all I knew was how I felt and that was most important. (And of course, I considered my Fiance but he’s told me over and over he thinks I’ll look beautiful no matter what I wear)
If you can help it at all…don’t settle.
Post # 7
I bought a second dress after my first. I wasn’t sure that I loved it. I liked it. But I didn’t feel like I had the feeling that I was supposed to in my wedding gown. Since I felt unsure about my dress I went dress shopping and I found a dress that I couldn’t stop smiling in. I found a dress I loved instead of my first dress that I just liked. A wedding is a one time thing and you need to feel gorgeous on your big day!
I wasn’t able to return my first dress but I sold it on Ebay and was able to break even! And even though you want another dresses you don’t have to go over budget (unless you have a particularly expensive taste). If you go try on more tell the consultant your budget is firm and they should be able to find dresses you’ll love in your price range!
Post # 8
- Wedding: April 2016 - Athol Hall, Mosman
I didn’t have that big tearful “this is it!” moment. I stood there, thought how pretty I looked and according to my SO, I couldn’t stop smiling. I ended up with a blingy ball gown – 2 things, I totally didn’t want. I was almost about to purchase a lace fit n flare and it did give me a nice feeling but the ball gown was even stronger. I literally started to obsess about it after I left the bridal salon and I kinda still am obsessed a bit…so I guess I made the right choice, lol.
Post # 9
I don’t wear skirts or dresses, like ever. I knew my dress was the one when:
I felt pretty in it. It was structured beautifully and flattered my figure.
It had just the right amount of sparkle. I’m not a very flashy person, but the details were ace for my personality.
It was less than 1k (about $800)
It fit the style of dress that I knew my now husband preferred.
Post # 10
I knew it was my dress when I didn’t hesitate to purchase it after I already purchased my non returnable first dress.
Post # 11
i knew it was my dress not because i love LOVED it but because it was pretty enough, looked alright on me, the price was right and i was able to get it in time. the wedding is about more than just the dress.
Post # 12
cottoncandybee: I made my own dress, but the thing that stressed me out the most was putting in all that effort and not feeling ‘wow’ when I tried on the finished product for the first time.
Because I made it myself it was a fraction of the cost, so I found solace in knowing that if i didnt fall in love with it, I could afford to make a new one, or change it etc.
When I tried on my dress however, for the first time, I cried! I cried to much that I had to wait until my body got over the crying part so I could take the dress off without smudging mascara all over it! I was in love! and then I cried even more because I didnt have anyone with me when I tried it on to share the awesomeness with. But that is how I knew, I was kinda overwhelmed with joy and happiness! Good luck my dear, I hope you end up walking down the aisle feeling amazing! <3
Post # 13
TheBlackCrain: my consultant told me that after several years and many brides she has never had a bride cry over her dress. She has had a couple moms cry. Shows like say yes to the dress have made people think if you don’t cry it’s not the one!
Post # 14
I didn’t cry, but I definately had that moment where I knew it was my dress – before it was even zipped! It just made me feel amazing and I didn’t want to take it off. I’ve also lost all desire to keep looking. That’s how I know it’s the right one.
Post # 15
I agree with some of the other bees! When I found my dress, I didnt cry or anything! When I put it on, before it was even zipped I knew it was mine. It made me feel a way I had never felt before and I felt so incredibly beautiful. I couldnt imagine walking to my FH in any other dress but that one. If you dont cry its okay, but if you arent 100% sold on the one you bought, then keep looking 🙂 you want to look and feel your best!