Post # 1
Sorry if this is a weird question, but the bridesmaids i am choosing are all youngish (21, 22) and they have never been in weddings, so they don’t know what bridesmaids are “supposed to do” traditionally. I have asked them to honor me by being a bridesmaids, however they don’t know anything about what being a bridesmaid might mean (what should i tell them? im new to this too)
Also, i have an extremely tight budget and it would be so helpful to follow tradition if my girls would buy their own dresses (dresses would not be expensive…under $100)— How should I ask them to do this, and let them know it IS tradition, without being rude?
I guess if you didnt know that most bridesmaids pay for their own dresses, you’d assume that the bride would pay..
Post # 3
@MrsBtoBe14: I’ve known for years that bridesmaids buy their own dresses and I think people will tell them or they can google it (they are early 20s). However, I’m a blunt person so I would ask them about dresses and give them an idea of cost and make sure they can afford it.
Post # 4
maybe start off by getting them all together and finding out what price point they are comfortable with that way they can all get the idea and you will get some input as well. I doubt they will be too surprised that they have to pay, its not unusual. Plus they get to keep the dress 🙂
Post # 5
I would probably compile some dress ideas and then talk to them about what they’re comfortable spending.
Post # 6
@MrsBtoBe14: I agree with PP – if you ask them, ‘what price range is comfortable for you guys?’, you are gently telling them that they are paying, but you’re also being conscious of their financial situation.
Post # 7
@MrsBtoBe14: If you’re that concerned about it, determine on your own what you feel the role entails, then go back to each girl and let them know your expectations. Be understanding and gracious if they are unable to carry out your expectations and choose to just be a guest instead.
I agree with a previous post,I’ve always been aware of the typical ‘role’ of a Bm for my region.