(Closed) How to let BM's know you'd like them to buy their own dresses?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
8695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MrsBtoBe14:  I’ve known for years that bridesmaids buy their own dresses and I think people will tell them or they can google it (they are early 20s). However, I’m a blunt person so I would ask them about dresses and give them an idea of cost and make sure they can afford it.

Post # 4
1406 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

maybe start off by getting them all together and finding out what price point they are comfortable with that way they can all get the idea and you will get some input as well. I doubt they will be too surprised that they have to pay, its not unusual. Plus they get to keep the dress 🙂 

Post # 5
11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@gelaine22:  Same. 

I would probably compile some dress ideas and then talk to them about what they’re comfortable spending.

Post # 6
477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@MrsBtoBe14:  I agree with PP – if you ask them, ‘what price range is comfortable for you guys?’, you are gently telling them that they are paying, but you’re also being conscious of their financial situation.

Post # 7
2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MrsBtoBe14:  If you’re that concerned about it, determine on your own what you feel the role entails,  then go back to each girl and let them know your expectations.  Be understanding and gracious if they are unable to carry out your expectations and choose to just be a guest instead. 


I agree with a previous post,I’ve always been aware of the typical ‘role’ of a Bm for my region.

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