(Closed) How to let go of a friendship?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1332 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

This is hard!!!  If you tell your BFF to not include you, I am sure she would understand.  However, I feel like if you do not go, then you are letting them ‘win’ bc ultimately you are losing out on events that you may have once enjoyed, like getting a pedi.  Or worse, you will feed into their BS bc you and I both know they will think that it is another example of how you ‘changed’ (which I have followed your posts, and they are wrong and immature!!).

I think if you can find a way to go, with your head held high, being civil but not engaging them in personal convo, exuding the maturity you have all along, and enjoying the time with your bff! Which means walking away from the event IF they bring things up, or bombard you, or whatever by telling them ‘I came here to enjoy a pedi, not be ganged up on, so I am leaving’, then I think you will show more class and dignity they ever could. 

So, I guess I would go, and give it a shot, but not because you want re-kindle those friendships, etc.  Good luck!

Post # 5
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2188 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

I just read your other post and ugh these girls sound awful! I would just tell your BFF that you love hanging out with her but after the “meeting” with the other girls you feel your friendship with both of them has run it’s course and you don’t want to continue seeing them and being made to feel like a 5th wheel or getting ganged up on. Make sure she knows you want to see/hang out with her just without the other 2 toxic “friends.” I’m glad you realized that these other 2 are horrible because just after reading half of your posts I would have never talked to these girls again. You deserve better friends!

Post # 6
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2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I had the same thing happen but WITH my BFF. 🙁 She changed the instant I told her we were looking at rings. She literally started to ignore me unless to talk about the problems in her relationship. She blew me off numerous times, wouldn’t respond to texts or call me back, would say she was gonna call back & just didn’t. The final straw was the night we got engaged she posted to Facebook, “Yay. You’re an official grown-up!” 

Huh? I’m 35!!!! WTF.

 

You just stop responding to anything to do with them. If you are invited & they are too, tell the inviter you can’t then but make plans to hang with her alone. If you are on FB, put them on limited profile & remove them from showing up in your feed. Don’t respond to their texts or calls. 

 

I’m really sorry. I know it sucks! 

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