(Closed) How to let go of your maid of honor/bff

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
696 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Maybe before you up and cut her from the wedding, sit her down and have a serious talk with her. Ask her why she is acting this way and offer to help her with whatever she is going through.  Tell her that while you love her and value her friendship, you will not allow her to treat other people you care about badly and that her attitude towards you and your other friends needs to change.

See how she reacts to this and if ,as you predicted, she acts like a child and freaks out about this, then tell her that you are sorry but you have to reconsider her as a bridesmaid..but let her now that you still care about her and this doesnt mean your friendship has to end and that you are still there for her when and if she is ever ready to talk.

Post # 4
190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It’s very unfortunate that your friend is behaving like that, but if I were in the same position I would feel the same way.

Many people will tell you that this is a friendship ending move – which it is. But it appears that ship has sailed and it’s time to move on. Be prepared that this is likely a permanent solution; you don’t hear many “Oh yeah, we were such good friends and we ended up fighting and she threw me out of her wedding – we’re still very close though.”

If you feel your friendship is salvageable and you can work through it, then I would hold off, talk to her and work on the relationship. If you truly feel that your relationship is toxic and it’s time to cut your losses and walk away, then by all means go for it.

Edit: Never answered the question!

I would tell her, “Sue, recently I realized that our relationship has changed and it’s not for the better. I hope you understand how much this hurts me, but I no longer want you as a Maid/Matron of Honor or a friend. It’s just best for us to go our separate ways right now…”


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