(Closed) How to let his ex-girlfriend know we're engaged

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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jassy.uhlin:  “I just want her to know we’re engaged, and revel in the fact that it will make her miserable.”

“What is a good way to subtly rub in our engagement, and let her know how happy we are?”

Don’t make this about her, because then she wins. Announce it and celebrate the way you normally would. She’ll hear about it through the grapevine. 

 

Post # 17
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Buzzing Beekeeper

You already “won”, you have the man and ring she so desperately wants. Post wedding plans on Facebook if you want, that’s enough

Post # 18
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Busy bee

Wow I didn’t see your most recent post. Forget the high road.

Document every thing. Talk to both the police and a lawyer. Create a paper trail. Find out what to watch for. The wedding may see her escalate her behavior and you need to be prepared.

Good luck.

Post # 19
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Worker bee

FYI OP it’s illegal to pose as someone else on Craigslist, I think you should get in touch with the police about her behavior!

Post # 20
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Bumble bee

Maybe you can get it written into the restraining order.

But for real, this is all bad. 

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

oh my! she’s a lunatic! putting some craiglist ad pretending to be you…

If i were you, i’d spam facebook and instagram with pics of the ring. 😉

Also, get a restraining order, wtf is wrong with her.

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Love the newspaper ad idea! Yep put some soppy stuff on FB/Insta and then call the police. That is not at all okay.

 

How does your Fiance feel about her behaviour!?

Post # 24
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Honey Beekeeper

I saw something similar on a TV show recently, maybe 20:20? I think the woman was mad she didn’t get the winning bid on a house and set out to make the couple’s life miserable. Sending someone to the house for casual sex was something she did as well. Eventually she was arrested.

I’d talk to police, an attorney, maybe a PI. This is over the top behavior and she sounds mentally ill. Unfortunately, there are some really sick people out there who can hide their pathology fairly well. 

Post # 25
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jassy.uhlin:  What about just living your life ignoring her?

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee

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pinkcorsage:  +100

If she’s as nuts as you say, OP, baiting her seems like the last thing you’d want to do. 

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - His Way Church & Chesapeake Room @ Downs Park

I second what handa said. You need to file a restraining order against this girl or do something to send a serious message to her. It’s a good thing that Craigslist guy was understanding but he could’ve very well not been. She put your life in danger and knows way to much information about you being the fact that she is your FI’s ex. She shouldn’t know your phone number or email address and you need to block her from your social media sites so that she cannot view any of your stuff. 

You wanna rub it in? Restraining order. Now. 

Post # 28
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MrsYokiman:  I will never understand why people see this need to brag about how wonderful their life is to make a point.

Post # 29
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Helper bee

The email may not be hers, but I bet you the IP address is. Take the info to the police and have them trace the original IP address. This is simple computer knowledge any police station should be able to do. We tracked a friend’s daughter who ran away and emailed her friend telling her she’s ok. She hitchhiked her way to the other side of the country. Stalking, slander, and identity theft are not legal and should not be taken likely. Step as far as you can out of her life. Make your profiles viewable only to those in your friends list. Be smart about this. 

Post # 30
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Blushing bee

Definately contact the police. They will not be mad if you do. My Dad’s a firefighter he says, if you feel you need to call the fire department or police for anything, ALWAYS do. They get calls for the tiniest things all the time, it’s part of their job. And this is not a tiny thing, she’s gone way too far, imagine if that man who came to your house was even a little bit crazy?!!!! <br /><br />I saw that 20:20 episode too and the police were definitely involved.

Do it! go to the police as soon possible! 

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