Post # 1
We’ve decided not to do assigned seating for our reception because it seems it will create more problems than it’s worth: Our reception is at a dinner/dance restaurant, so the table sizes are not typical – most are 6-seaters, some are 4-seaters, and some are actually restaurant booths that only seat 4 people. We just can’t do larger tables because of the way the space is designed, with tables surrounding the crescent shaped dance floor. Dinner is served buffet style, so it’s not a concern to have seating be unassigned from the restaurant’s point of view. Plus, our goal is to have people mingle and to mostly not even be seated (our plan is to just get dinner over with quickly so that we can maximize the time everybody spends shakin’ their booty on the dance floor!)
The restaurant does have a couple large tables, which we will reserve for immediate family and bridal party. However, for everybody else where seating will be unassigned – what’s the best way to let them know that they need to find their own seat? Do you put up a sign or just have the reception staff notify people if they ask?
Where I come from, tables are usually assigned so I know people will be a bit thrown off, I just want to avoid creating panic or chaos so was wondering if a sign would be the way to go.
What do you think?
Post # 4
I’d make a sign that’s fitting with the theme and formality you’re going for.
“Pick A Seat” or something along those lines
Post # 5
@smanette: I recently went to a wedding with self seating and I loved it! I went just my date and I and we found a cute little table for two. Had our own experience.
I dont think people will be confused –
I wouldnt worry, just make sure each table has a little decor and people will happily sit where ever they are most comfortable 🙂
Post # 6
I think you could find a fun way to word it on a sign and put it where the seating chart would normally be.
Maybe make a small note of it on your website. Also, make sure all those involved in your wedding (wedding party, staff, family) knows so they can pass it along.
Post # 7
I didn’t have assignegd seating and people just figured it out, no problems. I agree that a cute “Pick a seat” sign would be fine if you wanted to do that. Otherwise, I wouldn’t worry about it too much.
Post # 8
If the restaurant has a coordinator or maitre d’ that will be workign with you – they should be at the entrance (or the like) welcoming your guests. They can let them know it’s “Open Seating” and to make themselves at home anywhere except where you’ve placed a reserved sign.
If it’s very unusual in your family or area I would make sure one of the staff members are there to tell guests or make a sign to put on an easel or something letting them know.
They’ll enjoy it more and not be so unsure of what to do that way.
Also, just from experience working weddings for years – make sure you have more seats than guests if you’re doing unassigned seating. Sometimes the way families and groups break up means there may be an empty seat here and there which would require additional seats at other tables.
Good luck & have fun!!!
Post # 9
I have actually never been to a wedding where there was assigned seats. As long as a few key people know what’s going on to help any guests that look lost, you’ll be fine.
Post # 10
I dont think you need to have a sign or anything. People just kind of figure it out. I went to a wedding that was outdoors in a tent. There were regular round and high tables but there were definitely not enough tables for all the people there. We got the idea pretty quickly. Plus, you look for a few minutes for escort cards and when you dont see them, you just go sit down where you can. Its not a big deal!
Post # 11
Super, thanks guys! I think we’ll probably not do a sign then, but just ask the staff to be careful to explain this for anybody who seems confused when they can’t find a placecard table.