(Closed) How to let the [shower] guests know this…

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

I vote either word of mouth or by putting your wedding website (if you have one) on the shower invites.  Or it’s becoming more popular (IDK how etiquette people will feel about this….) to put your registry information on the shower invite *cringe DON’TKILLME*

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Word of mouth! Spread it around through your mom, Maid/Matron of Honor, BMs, whoever. People will get the memo. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Word of month and/or put a little note on your wedding website. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I personally would just let this go and let people figure it out, rather than trying to specifically direct them in a particular direction. If I see a bride with multiple registries, I will visit all of them before deciding what to gift. I wouldn’t just pick one and go with it.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I used myregistry.com that allowed you to register for multiple stores.  But my registry was a suggestion as to what we could use, and the items were just examples.

 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

If you are doing registry information in the shower invitation (which is generally seen as acceptable, I believe – total no on wedding invites but I’ve never received a shower invite without it), maybe you could word it like “The bride & groom have a primary registry at Target and a smaller registry at Bed, Bath, & Beyond.”

On all the ones I’ve received, it has just been a line at the bottom of the invite or a small insert card.

This totally surprised me because I am a person who goes online and looks at registries/wedding websites/etc immediately, but I don’t think people use wedding websites as much as some of us brides think given my web traffic after sending Save-The-Date Cards (with strong language about hotels selling out and going to the website to get details) and talking with others.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Curious as to why you registered at BB&B if there isnt much that you want from there? I wouldnt mention the BB&B registry at all. If someone stumbles across it, good for them. I’d just tell people that Im registered at Target (when asked).

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Well theoretically if you registered for all that stuff, you want all that stuff, so does it really matter if the BBB stuff gets bought before the Target stuff, or after it?  

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@X0JLYNN03:  Agreed that it is a possibility that they won’t think to go to the other one, but then hopefully, they’ll gift you giftcards or cash instead. We had two registries and one had significantly more stuff than the other (and might I add significantly less expensive overall). I still got gifts from both, as well giftcards for both AND a lot of cash/checks. If you are worried that the guests will panic and go “OMG, no gifts left at BBB. I’ll just buy something else from here!!!” I wouldn’t worry about it. We only got one off-registry item (and I think it was a re-gift, not a desperation move) and BBB has an easy return policy, according to other brides.

You know your guests better than I do so if you think your guests will be confused, then Word of Mouth is best and probably the most “polite”.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think it’s just a matter of her not wanting guests to be inconvenienced if they drive to BBB and then the registry is really small and/or doesn’t have something in their price range. So she wants them to know Target has more options so they don’t end up going all over town. That’s how I read it at least 🙂

We tried to be really balanced with our registries for the same reason. Fiance kind of wanted a 3rd registry at a different store, but there wouldn’t have been much to put on it and it would have just made all of them small. Small registries can be kind of annoying, not enough choice as the buyer.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Shower invitations can include registry information.  I’d tell your shower hosts to list Target first, so it looks the most prominent.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yeah, I have to agree with the PP… I expect to see registry info on the invitations to showers. Unlike your wedding invitations, YOU aren’t the one throwin this party. I think that makes it more accepted, if not expected, that your registry info be included!

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