(Closed) how to list grandparents in program?

posted 10 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

I have a similar situation — my grandparents would LOVE to come to my wedding, but it’s a thousand miles for them, and they had a hard time making it to my cousin’s in the next town over. I was thinking of having two lists in the program: "Those who are with us in memory" "Those who are with us in spirit" or something like that. Maybe to some people that just looks like two dead categories.

I’d appreciate ideas too! 

Post # 4
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311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

My fiance will likely have only one of his two grandmothers attend the ceremony.  We’ll probably just list them together under ‘grandparents of the groom.’  I would think it can still be under a ‘wedding party’ section.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

We also have a number of elderly relatives who will not be attending just because of the difficulties of travel.  Its not easy for someone who has trouble getting in and out of a car to navigate through an airport.  And if their health is fragile, the possibility of health problems so far from home can be very real.  My FI’s father had a stroke about a year before his death, on a trip across the state that he really never should have made, and thereafter unable to remember that he was at home.  He would sit in his own living room and beg us to drive him home.  His doctor indicated this probably would not have been the case had his illness happened at home – the ongoing confusion over location was caused principally by the fact that he knew he was away from home when he had the stroke, and heard so many people worry about the difficulties of getting him back home in the days immediately following the stroke.

It is terribly insensitive of you FI’s family to imply that your grandparents don’t love you, or don’t love you enough, if they are unable to make the trip.  I would be tempted to tell your FI’s grandmother and the rest of the relatives that they can be a little more respectful of your grandparents and your relationship with them, or keep their mouths shut in your presence.  Seriously, it shows a terrible lack of respect for you that they would say things like that in front of you or your Fiance.  He should also step up and let his family know that their trash-talking about your relatives is not acceptable.

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