(Closed) how to list invitation for step parents

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
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  • Post # 3
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    1609 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    In general, dead people are  not included on invitations.  You can have an in memoray of section on program, if you do program

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Yeah, I’m not sure that including a dead person’s name on the invitation would be appropriate. Also, when you start factoring in parents re-marrying, it gets really difficult to include everyone on the invitations.

    Would you consider maybe writing “Together with our families” on the invitations, rather than listing everyone by name?

    Post # 5
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    13 posts
    Newbee

    If it was a natural parent (as your FI’s dad) who passed away, I could see you putting something like this example:

     

    The honour of your presence is requested at the marriage of
    Jennifer Drake,
    daughter of John Drake and the late Barbara Drake,
    to
    Brian Connors,
    son of Mr. and Mrs. Matthew Connors,
    etc.

     

    However, since it’s not your natural parent that has passed away, I think trying to include her could be either cluttered or very confusing – you don’t want to make it appear as if she is hosting the event from beyond the grave. I like the “Together with their families” or whatever feels most natural and appropriate to the tone of your wedding.

    ETA: This link has some nice wording for stepparents. Maybe you can figure out a way to combine things that way.

    http://www.bridalguide.com/etiquette/bridal-etiquette-qas/wedding-invitation-etiquette/invitation-wording-deceased-parents

    Post # 6
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    7902 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    Who is hosting?

    If you are, I’d probably go with:

    Bride,

    daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Mom’s Husband’s First and Last

    Mr. Dad’s First and Last, (note: no “and”)

    and

    Grrom,

    son of Ms. First Last

    the late Mr. First Last, (note: no “and”)

    request blah blah blah

     

    “and” means “married to” in this context, which is why the names would be listed one above another in asyndeton

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