I’m torn on this. I see your point and theirs.
You and your new hubby are entiteld to privacy and alone time, which is going to be hard to get with roommates let alone kids.
On the other hand you can’t brand kids with the same brush. Some are spoilt uncontrolled brats who wouldn’t think twice about invading your space. Others are sweet angels and may be very respectful and keep out the way. Either way you can not ask them not to see thier children, it would be like them asking you not to see your new hubby.
I wouldnt tolerate the weed smoking. I would make it clear that if they wish to do this they do it elsewhere not in the communal area’s.
What about sexy time? I mean would you be comfortable throwing the passions with your new Husband, knowing thier was another couple next door and even kids accossionaly. They may hear you. Or you hear them.
Is there two bathrooms? Do want to be bumping into the male roommate at 2am half dressed? Or having to flush after potty training or messy kids?
What do you picture your evenings doing? Is it watching a film snuggeld on the sofa with Hubby, perhaps cooking a romatic dinner? Because if it is, that’s not going to happen with another couple also wanting the same thing or doing this whilst their doing the ABC’s with the kids in the corner?
6. What about food factor? Are you comfortable knowing that food going missing is likely to happen? Or even cooking meals? There will be to people trying to cook two meals in the kitchen 2 to 3 times a day.
I think you and Hubby need to list all the pro’s and cons and questions you have for the landlord such as. If they don’t pay their rent does it effect you? What happens with deposites and whos liable for damages ect.. After you do this, go out look at further properties and compare to this house. Then if your still got your heart set on this place, make sure you have rules set in place between you, roomies and landlord and you also have a escape route.
I understand having to take two steps back for more space. Me and my SO had to move out of our rented 1 bedroom cottage because we found out we’re pregnant and we’re saving for a house. We now live with his parents. It’s a tough sacrifice, but we have our own bedroom, bathroom and the spare room is going to baby. We eat al as a family and me and Mother-In-Law take it in turn to cook. If I see a mess I clean it up in order to pull my wieght. So far its a good relaxing situation.
Good Luck 🙂 and keep us updated xx