Post # 1
I’m almost 20, but I look like I belong in high school. It doesn’t help that I’m short and petite. Tomorrow, my mom and possibly grandma and I are going dress shopping to look at styles. My mom’s really excited about it so, of course, I am too, but I’m honestly concerned about being judged for my age. Even if they don’t ask, I know they’ll look at me and assume all sorts of things. I saw it when I went shopping with a girl I used to be friends with, and I’d rather not deal with it if I can avoid it.
So does anyone have any little tips on how to look at least my actual age?
Post # 3
Unless you wanna cake on makeup and overdress, Just ignore it. Youre 19. Its bound to happen but it doesnrt matter what they think. I had someone at work the other day tell me I look 13. I’m 23. Embrace looking young. I know ppl looked at me that way while dress shopping. It is what it is. If anyone makes any snide remarks, take your business elsewhere.
Post # 4
Well, at 19 you are just a year or two older than high schoolers, so it’s not that uncommon to look like one. I’m 24 and people used to give me the “you’re getting married?!” look because they thought I was about 20.
Regardless of how old you LOOK, people will still give you odd looks since you are 19 and trying on wedding dresses. It’s just not that common to get married that young anymore.
Post # 5
Sorry — I’m in my 30s. Even if you looked your age (almost 20) you would still look like you belong in high school.
That’s okay. Own your age. You are only young once.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
I’m 23 and apparently I don’t look my age, most people assume I’m closer to 30, and when I’ve questioned it the most common response I get is because I dress conservatively, and I wear minimal/neutral toned make-up.
I find when I wear pink tones & more flirty clothes I get carded at restaurants and things, but when I’m coming stright from work, and/or don’t bother with much make-up I never do, so I guess they’re right.
Post # 7
You shouldn’t care what people think, but I get it….my daughter is the same way, just a teeney little thing with a baby face and sometimes when we’re out she doesn’t get treated the same way as someone who looks older might. I would recommend an outfit overhaul, swap the regular t-shirt for a fun, yet sophisticated top, add a light jacket, a bright scarf, throw your hair up in a loose french twist and sport some fun heels, neutral makeup with a shimmer lip gloss…voila! +5 years easy!
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California
I’m 23 & look fairly young too. I was actually told like a month or so ago that they thought I was 17 :[. Sure, I was disappointed, but I certainly didn’t let it ruin my day! If you’re mature enough to get married, be mature enough to not worry about how old people perceive you to such a sensitive extent!
Post # 9
@juliette.eliza: Same. I’ve never been asked about my age in a derogatory way, and I am pretty young (22.) However, I think I know why.
1. I don’t act my age. I’m not giggly or silly acting. I like to have fun and I’m pretty darn funny, but yeah.
2. I dress conservatively and always well put together (I wear a lot of blazers, even with jeans).
3. My hairstyle is not your typical “22 year old” hair, which I think is assumed to be the long hair that’s been curled? With the straight across bangs? No offense if that is you or other posters, it’s just the stereotype! I’ve heard it on here and I’ve heard it IRL, plus a lot of my friends…have that haircut.
Also, my makeup is very, well, “grown up.” I wear neutrals like @juliette.eliza said, I don’t cake it on, I just make sure I’m only enhancing ME not trying to make a statement like a lot of my friends do. Make sense?
ETA: At the end of the day, you just have to own it. As you can see, even people on here have something to say and they can’t see you. It’s a sad reality, but it’s not changing. You don’t need anyone’s validation about your age or your choices. I find it best not to bring it up often or offer it as information. Many people on here would have no clue what my age was if I didn’t tell them. 🙂 However, I’m not ashamed of it. DH and I have been together for so many years that I’m not going to “feel bad” that I married before the average age.
Post # 10
I am 31 and get carded everywhere…AND people ask me “What school do you go to?” They assume I’m in college. REGARDLESS of what I wear.
So whatever. Just act like an adult and no one will care that you look young. YOU need to stop caring what they think, too.
Post # 11
@Nona99: That’s exactly how it is! I know I shouldn’t care, but the constant, “How old are you?” questions and weird looks when I answer get annoying, especially since my 15-year-old sister could pass for a 20-year-old.
Post # 12
I am 25, I got carded at the movie theater going to see Ted and Magic Mike…worst part. When I was at the movie for Ted and my 22 year old brother and sister in law did not get carded…I always get that I look like I am in high school so I get it..people say enjoy it but it is not exactly a compliment to get told you look 15 when you are 10 years older than that it’s kind of an insult lol but at this point I guess I just have to deal with it, but i know what you’re feeling about wanting to look like a woman esp on your wedding day I was actually just talking about my fears of looking like a little girl on mine with my best friend the other day. haha
Post # 13
@AmeliaBedelia: I made that mistake my first semester of college. I was 3 months shy of my 18th birthday, and told everyone how I graduated early. They all treated me like I might as well have been 12, so I learned not to tell anyone unless they specifically ask.
At least I don’t have that haircut. Thanks for the fashion tips!
Post # 14
@mepayne: I sincerely think that like 90% of it is height…petite women are just treated like little kids cause they’re little…I’m an amazon, towering over the general pubic at a terrifying 6 feet, and let me tell you, people think twice asking how old I am, and the perfect retort to such an inappropriate inquiry is, “Old enough to know better.”
It’s a hard thing to explain, but being confident and owning your space makes a difference.
Post # 15
Dress-wise, don’t got for a princessy ball gown. Unless you really want one.
Post # 16
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I got asked on my wedding day if it was my sweet sixteen party because I wore a red dress to the reception and looked really young (I was 23.)