Post # 1
Hello. I’ve previously been engaged, we were together for a about year and a half. We called it off about a month before the wedding, it was defineitly for the better. But I’m having some trouble. I’ve recently met a great guy and we have hit it off amazingly well. I have strong feelings for him and can see us going far but I’m also scared to trust myself. I was so close to getting married the last time and yet was so wrong about ex that I fear being wrong again. This guy is completely different and an absolute sweetheart but I just don’t feel like I’m being completely open to ‘love’. Maybe it’s because I see and feel something so great that I’m so scared. Idk. I adore this guy and want to be open hearted about it but I can’t help feeling like I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop due to how my ex treated me after he got ‘comfortable’. I’m pretty sure he had some borderline personality issues.
Post # 2
naturallife: Stop thinking so much! This new dude is recent, so just enjoy the ride and see where things go. Perhaps the ability of trust will come with time spent with this guy. Relax, and try not to think so far ahead. One day at a time, hon!
Post # 3
I was/am in the same boat you are in! I was engaged to my high school sweetheart….we were together for 8.5 years and we ended up calling off our wedding a little less than a year away. It was definitely for the better too! I never dated anyone other than my ex-fiancee…until I met this guy who I met on a dating app of all things. We have been talking for about a month now and we just had our 2nd date. Honestly, I thought I’d have the same feelings, but this guy is just so different (in a good way) from my ex, that any nervous/uneasy feelings about falling in love again have disappeared. I just trust that God will eventually lead me to true love, so whether this new guy will end up being that person or not, I just put all my faith in God. It’s worked out so far, as He saved me from making a terrible mistake.
Just try and have faith in finding love again. Even if things don’t end up working out….they always do in the end one way or another 🙂 Best of luck! I definitely know where you’re coming from. But don’t let this new guy pay for this mistakes your ex made! <3
Post # 4
Oh girl – I feel you.
I was with my ex for 10 years. We got married and lasted 4 years of marriage and managed to leave a little battered and bruised but still friends.
I met SO 6 months after I separated from the EX and he was the complete opposite. He made me a priority, was vocal with how he was feeling, is considerate and kind and family orientated, he was romantic and it made me want to run in the opposite direction because I felt like I couldn’t trust him. He was too perfect.
I almost ghosted him after the second date – I cancelled our third date saying I wasn’t feeling well and he was so sweet and thoughtful with how he handled me cancelling that I thought maybe I should give him one more chance? 7 months later we are living together and talking about getting married and he still has all those amazing qualities like he did in the beginning. Yes, we got comfortable. It isn’t always rainbows and sunshine but it is always where I want to be.
Trust yourself and be open to the possibility that this is it.
Post # 5
Hearing this makes me hopeful for the future someday… Glad to know love can be found again.