Post # 1
I’ve reached the point (YES! Finally!) where I know that my boyfriend has bought and received the ring, and since we are two weeks out from going to vacation in Florida I basically know he is going to propose there, though I obviously don’t know how or what exact day.
However, because it’s pretty much guaranteed at this point, I was wondering how to maintain a sense of excitement about it? Obviously I AM excited and I know I will cry (I cry when I hear about other people’s engagements – I’m gonna be a mess at my own) but he knows I’ll say yes, I know I’ll say yes, and right now it just feels like I’m… too prepared? I don’t know how to explain it but I know he has it, I know it’s going to be in two weeks or so, I know what the ring looks like (not in actual real life, but I picked it out)… it’s like I know too much that I feel like I can’t get super amped up about it anymore even though this is all I have wanted and I cannot wait to start planning a wedding. I also just don’t want to react wrong/weird because in the back of my mind I’m thinking (oh okay, this is happening right now).
I know this probably sounds so stupid and weird but I tend to be a pretty anxious person who maps out every situation in my head. Does anyone have any tips or advice to keep my excitement up?
Post # 2
I think you’re more than excited enough. If anything I think you need to calm down a bit.
It’s very exciting that a proposal is coming soon!
But I found it sightly concerning when you said this is all you’ve ever wanted. I hope you have other dreams and aspirations in life such as a career and hobbies and a social life- maybe focus on those things while you’re waiting?
Maybe I read too much into your comment.
It’s great to be excited, but at this time I think you should sit back and relax and let everything unfold. Just enjoy this time! It’s the last time he will be your bf. don’t let your anxiety get the better of you.
Get your nails done and have fun on the trip!
Post # 3
neverbeenstungbee : oh no, I meant “that it’s all I ever wanted” in the fact that I’ve been waiting so long (we’ve been together for five and a half years and I had been hopefully anticipating it at every single event haha) and that I just want to marry him already and have him by my side the rest of my life! I have plenty of “me” aspirations as well, don’t worry!
And thank you, I will definitely try to relax! I feel like even if outwardly I give the perception that I will be chill, I am still going to over analyze every moment and be like “is this it is this it” which I know is annoying and terrible but it’s definitely what I tend to do when I am looking forward to something oops lol
Post # 4
fyeahjenna : Congrats! I am not trying to be a negative nancy, but you should get out of the mindframe of “it’s pretty much guaranteed at this point”. Because, it isn’t. I am not saying that in the sense of he will NEVER propose (I am sure he will) but it might not be on your Florida vacation. He might have another date/time in mind. And you don’t want to be disappointed if it doesn’t happen.
But regardless, this is a very exciting time in your life. Congrats <3
Post # 5
sweetiemermaid : There are a bunch of other reasons why I feel like this will definitely be the time that would make this post way too long to list but you are totally right! It might not be in Florida. But I really, really, hope it is! We both want to get married in 2020 (in the fall) and it would be so hard to plan it with significantly less than a year, especially since we would be planning from 3 hours away where we intend on getting married.
But I’ll definitely try to not get my hopes up. I definitely tend to be someone that ALWAYS does even if I tell myself not to, so it might be a futile effort, but I am definitely going to try!
Post # 6
fyeahjenna : I am very happy and excited for you <3 make sure you let us know how your vacation went!
Post # 7
Congratulations! This is an exciting time for sure.
I’m in a similar spot. My boyfriend and I have talked extensively about marriage and we’re excited to be engaged. I know we’ll be engaged by Christmas, and I have a solid idea of when he might propose (although I hope it’s still a surprise). I’m excited and in love and it’s great. But our family has been treating us as if we’re already engaged, and I want it to happen while there’s still a sense of excitement.
As a fellow anxious person who also plans out everything in her head in advance, I suggest directing your energy to something you can control (while keeping in mind that there’s a chance it could happen at some time other than on your vacation). Do your nails, try something fun with your hair, and plan outfits so you’ll feel good no matter when it happens. I find that having something I’m in complete control over that I can picture helps distract me from something that’s not up to me.
Post # 8
What an exciting time! I was in your shoes not too long ago and was super anxious! Not much of my proposal was a suprise (which was absolutely perfect for me!), but as I knew it was getting closer it was so hard to contain my excitement!
I spent a lot of time on these boards admiring other rings and getting some wedding ideas! I also started to gather some links and pictures and made a Pinterest board.
Since you’ll be going on vacation, I would try to focus on that! Do you need to iron-out any details for your trip? Plan anymore events? Book a dinner? Go get your nails done! Pick out some cute outfits to wear! Maybe even splurge a little if your budget allows and get a new outfit!
Speaking from experience, I know how hard it is to calm down when you know a proposal is approaching! Just try to enjoy this time no matter how anxious you are. I hope you have a great vacation!
Post # 9
I think you’re worrying too much about it. You don’t have to maintain some kind of perfect level of excitement. Maybe you’ll feel excited when it happens, or you’ll feel relieved, or whatever. There is no right or wrong way to feel. I think you’re putting too much pressure on yourself.
Post # 10
- Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse
fyeahjenna : You’ll be fine!
I was in a similar boat. I knew roughly when it was going to happen but it didn’t change how special the day was.
Keep us updated 😉