How to Make Bride Feel Special at an All Inclusive Bachelorette Party

posted 5 months ago in Parties
Post # 2
382 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2021 - British Columbia, Canada

I was co-MOH for my best friend’s wedding in December and paid for the entire shower and bachelorette (with the exception of the other girls’ drinks/food when we went out to some bars and for lunch). Had the subject of any required extras such as matching outfits come up, unless discussed with and agreed upon by all of the other girls, I would have absorbed the cost for my own ideas. You’re being an awesome friend by wanting to make it special for her, but honestly the fact that you’re all going on an all-inclusive international vacation together to celebrate her marriage is plenty special all on its’ own. 

Post # 3
640 posts
Busy bee

If you have the money then you should pay for the extra things for the bridesmaids. They are already paying for the trip like you said. 
To help make her feel special, everyone can take a turn talking about their favorite memory with the bride.
Maybe you could ALL play the part of the groom for something like the newlywed game and see “who knows the bride best” I put that in quotes because it should all be in good fun and not a competition over who is a better/closer friend.

Post # 4
5968 posts
Bee Keeper

You won’t even do an excursion or something? Has everyone been to this area? While yes, it is a bachelorette trip, if people want to venture off resort they should be able to, and not be tied down to 24/7/7 itinerary. 

Doesn’t the fact that all the bridesmaids paid hundreds/thousands of dollars to attend this party for the bride not make her feel special? I would definitely NOT be asking them to pay for more stuff. If YOU as Maid/Matron of Honor want to treat her, maybe a spa day or something? 

Post # 6
4811 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

The groom requested you don’t leave the resort? Okay that’s super weird.

I don’t think you need to pay for things to make the bride feel special, I would organise games for the evenings etc. Maybe make a book of old pictures, playing a mr&mrs game where you record the groom is always fun. 

I am planning on buying her all her stuff to wear at the resort so she stands out and feels special.”

Won’t she want to pick her own stuff to wear for the trip? Personally I wouldn’t want someone to pick a bunch of stuff for me to wear, I would want to get my own.

Post # 7
47138 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The mere fact that her nearest and dearest are paying a small fortune to travel in her honor should be enough to make her feel special.

Many all inclusive resorts have restaurants, bars and clubs that, for an additional fee, are an upgrade from the basic choices.

Post # 8
3090 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

A few comments here..

1. What do you mean when you say you won’t be leaving the resort “at the grooms request”?

That seems really weird to me. If I was paying good money to go spend a week at an all-inclusive resort, I would like to have the option of going our on an excursion or two. There is only so much lounging by the pool drinking mai-tais one can handle. 

The fact that he would have such a request  strikes me as really controlling and possessive. I can kind of understand if the resort is in an otherwise dangerous area, perhaps him giving the suggestion that you don’t go off-site. But if it’s a “I don’t want you out and about in a party town” thing, that would bother me BIG TIME. 

2. You don’t need to do anything extra to make her feel special. You’re all dropping hundreds (thousands?) of dollars taking a girls vacation with her specifically to celebrate her upcoming wedding… that is more than enough. 

3. If you do insist on any extras then, yes, you should pay for them.

Post # 10
8634 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

AnnieAAA :  I’m confused. The fact that you’re all there for her party is not enough to make her feel special? Even given the cost in money, time, PTO, etc that everyone is giving up to be there for her? Someone needs to spend even more money, specifically on her rather than on getting themselves to her party, in order for it to count? That’s bizarre to me. 


Wait, not even the panty party in her honor is enough to make her feel special? ….. i don’t……

Post # 11
754 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

This already sounds way OTT to me so if she doesn’t feel special than that’s a her problem. You’re going above and beyond already 

Post # 12
11449 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

So we’re to the point where friends agreeing to spend time and money on an international resort vacation for a bachelorette party is not “special” enough?


That said some resorts and all inclusives are not in very safe areas. The groom is not necessarily being controlling to make that kind of request. 

It’s also possible the bride herself is not comfortable going off the premises and is using the groom as an easy excuse in case some of her friends wanted to be more adventurous. 

Post # 14
1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

One of my friends as a moh did a kiss memory frame. We took a group picture and then she got a picture frame and white mat. Everybody put on their favorite lip stick and kissed the white mat board so the brides picture was framed with our kisses and signatures. It was cute and girly.

Usually when I host, I gift the attendees T-shirt’s and a bag of goodies ( Advil, water, hand sanitizer etc). I also provide supplies for any games and a photo album of the trip or picture of the night for a keepsake. 

If people offer or suggest T-shirt’s during the planning process then sometimes they have chipped in, but I never ask. 

Post # 15
883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

For my sister’s bachelorette, I asked everyone to submit throw back pictures of them with her. Some of them went all the way back to elementary school. We hung them up all over her room. That didn’t cost anything, but definitely made her feel special. 

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