(Closed) How to make him err “more excited” about sex?

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Why would you make him go to the doctor unless he had a sexual dysfunction issue? Having a lower sex drive than you–and going at it twice a week–isn’t really an issue as far as I know. You’re just a horn dog 🙂 . I don’t think it’s not making him more excited, I think you just have to initiate more. If he has the lower sex drive, you can’t expect him to initiate more.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

He’s obviously turned on by you and you have sex frequently, so I am just surprised it would be his issue, that’s all. I would think sex on a less frequent basis would make me think he’s dealing with lowered hormones.

So what do you want? more than twice a week? twice a week? Just jump his bones more. He drops everything when you’re naked, so just…give him visual stimulation more =].

Distance grows temporary. Just work to close the gap if you aren’t okay with it!

I guess i’d be concerned with his levels if he still weren’t turned on…

eta: maybe you should get your levels checked since you’re all off the charts, LOL!  Some women have higher sex drives, not very frequently, but it happens!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Ditto the PP’s about jumping him 😉 

I’ve also got a *ahem* high sex drive.  My Fiance is forever teasing me about “not wearing me out” LOL!

As for the twice a week thing, I know plenty of guys who enjoy it MORE than twice a week.  Many are in their mid-30’s to 40’s.  (many are friends and, well, we enjoy joking about stuff like that and I usually end up hearing the general details about it from a)facebook innuendos, b)they typically tell my Fiance who tells me, c)chats with other girls or d)the guys themselves in round-about-ways… sometimes not so round-about.  I know, I have really weird friends…)

If you think there’s a problem, google google google!  Also, talk to your Fiance about it.  Not a “you need to do this” but a “I’m worried about you!” type way.  IF that makes any sense! (I tend to be confusing when it’s late and I’m trying to stay awake until ungodly hours).

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

@SweetRose2011:  Can I have some please?!  I wish my drive was higher.  🙁 

That said, I was just talking to my friend tonight who is having similar problems, which are compounded by pregnancy.  She feels like she’s always initiating and is feeling unattractive.  I recommended WB to her.  You ladies are awesome. 

Post # 9
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1645 posts
Bumble bee

@caitlanc: Mine too! I LOVE sex…love love LOVE it. But sometimes I’m just not in the mood. Blegh…it’s been less rather than more lately. Maybe I need to see a doctor, myself. Eesh.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Seriously.  Sex should be the opposite of frustrating!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Darling Husband and I hardly get to! Twice a week would be awesome! But I am just switching back to evenings. Before I was getting off work when he was starting, so I never saw him. Now, I plan to remedy that. = )

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

@SweetRose2011:  Oh, totally!  I meant that in a “I’m frustrated that this takes so much effort” sort of tone.  That said, I totally find our sex life – or rather the way they don’t line up – frustrating sometimes. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

i have gone through this with my Fiance more.

in his mind, it is pretty sexy when i am the one who initiates. this just does mean telling him that i want it, but being aggressive and making all the first moves. he makes the first moves most of the time, but gets way more turned one when i am the aggressor. if i had it my way, we would have sex every single day. he also has a lower sex drive. but he has taught me that if i am horny and he is not, one of the only ways to get him in the mood is initiate, initiate, initiate.

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