Post # 1
A week after my fiance and i got engaged, my mother got a really bad diagnosis with a really poor prognosis. For this, I have tried to get my stuff together as quickly as possible. I would really like to have my mom feel special. She was basically a single mom and she will never know how much I appreciated everything that she went through to raise me and my siblings. I want to get her something so she knows she is appreciated and even though I will be married(I feel VERY guilty about leaving her as noone else is living with her. For this reason we are moving literally 2 minutes away to be there for her whenever she needs ANYTHING). What can I get her to feel like the most important person in my life? Also any advice on keeping her comfortable on the actual day of the wedding? She doesnt go out often because it is too much on her and I am nervous that she will be tired before the ceremony is even over. I know it is going to be a LONG day as well.
Post # 3
Does the reception venue have hotel rooms? I would get your mother one so she can have a rest away from everyone if she needs it.
As for a present why not get her a piece of jewellery that she can wear on the day and everyday afterwards. I would also try as much as possible to not make a big deal about her on the day as it may make her feel bad. I am sure she wants the spotlight on you and your new husband and not on her.
Post # 4
@j_jaye: Thanks for the quick response. The reception site doesn’t have a hotel attached- it is about 20 minutes away. Jewelry is always nice but I don’t know exactly what she would like. What would you like if you were the mother of the bride in that position?
Post # 5
What about a pendant or locket? You could put a photo of you and her inside.
I gave my Maid/Matron of Honor a Pandora bracelet that was a breast cancer support bracelet as her mum was undergoing treatment for breast cancer during my wedding and therefore had to miss it. She really loved it and I like that it was personal and meaningful for us.
Post # 6
Does she have a sister, best friend or just someone who can be by her side (quietly) at all times in case she needs something and you aren’t right there? Make sure she has meals packed up for the next couple days, and possibly a limo to drive her home safe? You mentioned a long day, make sure she has her medicine if needed, her favorite drinks, out of the sun etc. Can you hire a cleaning lady for her in case of family dropping by her house so she can totally rest the days before your wedding? The day of the wedding, drop a love letter to her in the mail. You’ll know what to say. Send her flowers? Candy? Sounds like you have a great relationship and you both are lucky. I’m sorry for her sad news.
Post # 7
I don’t know if you would be comfortable with this, but (aside from the great and practical ideas already) show her this post. Or print just the text and say you’ve asked this online somewhere. Your post bleeds emotion (in a good way!) and for her to see that would probably touch her emotionally.
Ask her what you can do to make it better for her. This doesn’t mean you only do what she suggests (or refuses as some people are likely to just say “I’m fine”). But just maybe she’ll tell you what she’d like. Maybe you’ll hug and cry over it, maybe she’ll clam up and say she doesn’t need anything.
But I bet anything to see your words expressing how much she means and that you want her happy and comfortable will mean the world to her!