Post # 1
Hey ladies, some may remember all my drama with my sister as my MoH. Everything is now settled and she’s stepping up, she ordered her dress and its due to come at the end of the month.
To make her stand out she originally was the only one in a long dress, the other 3 were to be at/just below the Knee. 1 is now doing it at mid-calf and 1 is keeping it long. I found out yesterday and I’m freaking out. I can’t tell my sister this or she’ll flip and we FINALLY have everything bad to civil. So I’m trying to find a way to make her stand out a bit more. Her dress is this one. She does not want a jacket/shawl etc. Her boquet is different but she doesn’t care about that. and the girls all get to wear their own jewlery.
(EDIT: I know they may not all go together so perfectly but the girls are happy and comfortable and that was more important to me. So please focus on helping make the MoH look a little more different!!)
These are the other girl’s dresses….
(below is shortened to mid-calf)
Post # 3
Could you maybe get her a sparkly brooch for the waist or something?
Post # 4
My MOHs’ (yes we have 2) flowers are different than the BMs’.
Post # 5
@musician32992: I was thinking that but where do you think it could attach???
@phillybride61513: Her flowers are already different, she doesn’t give a rats tail about that 🙁 In her opinion its not enough to make her stand out. Her boquet is larger and has lillies, the others are smaller and roses only.
Post # 6
@Elky: Brooches have straight pins with a clasp. Just stick it in the fabric at her waist.
Post # 7
@musician32992: I’m just wondering if that might look silly, since it doesn’t have a straight waist, its more of an A shape it might look odd just sitting there on one of the thick bands?
Post # 8
what about a belt or sash?
something in her hair?
my Maid/Matron of Honor is getting a different bouquette and that is all i am doing to make her stand out.
Post # 9
@Elky: I don’t think it would look weird at all. Something like THIS could be super pretty.
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center
A beautiful hair clip or a broach.
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Genetti's in Dickson City, PA
I hate to say this, but I’m going to be mean for a minute. . .
Make HER stand out? This is NOT about her- it’s YOUR day, darling! How selfish!
Now that that’s out of my system, here are some actual ideas:
– a dramatic necklace that might show off a little
– a hair piece/flower for her hair
– different ribbon around her bouquete (I know you said the flowers didn’t matter- maybe something a bit special?)
– maybe a sash of some kind (not sure how it’d look with the cut of the dress- I’m a visual person)
– a light that blinks behind her with Maid/Matron of Honor so people know 😉 Okay, back to mean… sorry 😉
In all seriousness, good luck! My best friend is my Matron-Oh and my little sister is my Maid-Oh… I know how it is- my sister is competing with my bestie, and quite frankly, it’s exhausting to try to make both happy, so I do sympathize- please don’t think I’m a heartless b*. I guess I’m just saying to you what I wish I could say to my girls, hahaha.
Post # 12
I agree if you can find a sash that works well with the dress, that would make her stand out. A Brooch would look really pretty on her hip.
@RheannaRaye: Your post really made me laugh =)
Post # 13
@musician32992: I like that in her hair maybe….
@Sapphire-Dreamer: Hair Clip could work!
@RheannaRaye: No i completely agree that she shouldn’t need to stand out that way… but that’s the way she is and if I don’t cater to her it’ll create a huge blowup I don’t need 🙁 LOVE the blinking light but don’t think she’d go for it 😛
Post # 14
Since all the rest of the girls dresses have a defined waist, give them a small sash or belt, and her way of standing out is by not having anything at all.
I’m partly kidding, personally I hate this trend of having the Maid/Matron of Honor stand out, but I understand having difficult siblings. A big hair piece would work- I’d go passive agressive and buy the ugliest one possible, and pull the “But I’m the bride” card and make her wear it. But I admit to being a bitch.
Post # 15
@cirk: I actually think the sash for everyone else might make that work…… thats a pretty good idea and my other Bridesmaid or Best Man are much more easy going and their dresses I think work great with the sash idea.
Post # 16
@Elky: Well if it works for you, go for it! It’s what stood out to me, that the rest of the dresses all have the defined waist for a belt/sash to work, and she would look different by not having one.
I think all the dresses are pretty By The Way. They’ll look nice together.