- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
I need serious advice!!!
My parents are divorced for 12 years now – both remarried. I am getting married in July of this year and had decided to throw out tradition and have both my mother and father walk me down the isle. JUst recently I recieved an email from my mom telling me that the has decided to pull herself out of the isle walking b/c it is more of my fathers moment than her’s and she doesn’t want to create anymore enemies than she already has. FYI – my mother left my father and regrets it now. My dad’s family doesn’t like my mother due to the fact she hurt their son/brother, etc.
So, that very day I picked up the phone to talk to my mom instead of email to make sure that’s what she wanted. She went back and forth over a dozen times then made the final decision on saying “if your dad is ok with it, I will be”. Meanwhile, I hear from my dad that my mother went behind my back, called him that same day, asking if he could walk down the isle; my dad, not even knowing what the plan was b/c I haven’t even talked to him about it, was obviously shocked and responded coldly due to the fact that this was the first time he was hearing it and that he was hearing it from my mother and not me.
So, I need advice bad. I too prefer to have my father walk me down the isle; however, I only want to do this if I can somehow find a special way of making my mother feel as if she is fully invoilved just like my father. My mother has made comments as to ” I raised you , your dad didn’t – I stayed home and he worked all the time (even though they were married up until I was 16 and now I am 30).Now your dad gets all the credit and the priviledge of walking you down the isle and I don’t.”
I do want to include my mother in the ceremony, does anyone have any good suggestions other than a candle unity thingy or a reading. I want something unqique.
Thank you all in advance… I am looking forward to hearing from anyone!!