(Closed) How to make the ceremony longer?

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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680 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@collieblueeyes:  Why do you want a longer ceremony?  Our ceremony was about 15 minutes including the processional and recessional.  So many of our guests came up to us and thanked us so much for having a beautiful, SHORT straight to the point ceremony.  Not that they didn’t want to be there for us, but they were just glad it was short and they didn’t get bored and tired.  I don’t see anything wrong with having a short ceremony if everything you want to say is already included.  Good luck! 

Post # 5
Hostess
23620 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@collieblueeyes:  Another vote for “short and sweet” over here! Quick ceremony means more party time! 😀

Post # 6
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442 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Add in some readings that are meaningful to you and Fiance.  It’s a sweet way to personalize and it will eat up some time as well.  You could also sign the marriage certificate as part of the ceremony.  I’ve never been to a wedding that had this but I’ve seen it on the interwebs.  I think it’s a sweet thing to have so everyone can see you signing. 

Post # 7
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4035 posts
Honey bee

@collieblueeyes:  Not sure if you could logistically do this, but could you use the ceremony area for a short cocktail hour while you take pictures? Then it might feel like you are getting more for your money. Also, are they counting your hour from when the first guest arrives? Because guests will have to wait for a short period (about 10-20 minutes) before the processional depending on when they arrive.

We are having a short ceremony, about 12-15 minutes in total. It will include personal vows (2-3 minutes each), a short unity candle lighting, my sister is reading a short poem, and then the processional and recessional.

ETA: Oh yes, as another PP mentioned, sign the marriage certificate! We are thinking about doing this as well.

We are having our ceremony and reception in the same courtyard, so our guests just have to walk about 30 feet for the transition.

Post # 8
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680 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@collieblueeyes:  Ohhh, I see.  Would they be willing to just charge you for 30 minutes of ceremony time?  That would be much better than trying to kill an HOUR for the ceremony.  You can find some little saying or something about marriage to add to the ceremony to kill a couple more minutes.  But most of all, you should do what YOU want to do.. not what your Mother-In-Law thinks.  And no, 10 minutes doesn’t mean you’re trying to get it over with.  I truly enjoyed our short ceremony.  It did not feel like 15 minutes to US and it was still extremely special and I wouldn’t change it if we were to do it again.  In regards to you being shy, honestly, you don’t even know your guests are there when you’re up there with your about to be husband.  You are so focused with just him and vice versa that it seems like no one else is there and your shyness won’t be an issue. I hope this helps!  If you want to take a look at my ceremony script, let me know and I’d be happy to send it over to you. 🙂

Post # 9
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8281 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Our ceremony was only like 7 minutes long and our guests loved it. lol

Post # 10
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955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

As a former bride (and guest) I prefer to attend shorter ceremonies.

 

dont add onto the program just for the sake of making it longer.  My wedding was 15 minutes long.  It was awesome.  Nobody got bored–no babies cried and Grandpa didn’t fall asleep.

Post # 13
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680 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@JaneyDcat:  I agree 100%.  Don’t add on to it just to make it longer.  If you’re going to add, make sure it actually MEANS something to both of you.

 

@collieblueeyes:  You’re very welcome.  I’m at work right now and I’ll ask Darling Husband to email me the file so you don’t have to wait until I get home. Lol  Message me your email; I don’t think I can attach files in the PMs here?

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