(Closed) how to make the wedidng an expression of both of you if you are total opposites?

posted 8 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

love showtunes! i honestly don’t feel like our wedding is cohesively “us.” i guess it’s casual, which is us. but the pink, vintage feel. that’s totally me! my fi doesn’t care about decor, so he’d rather just leave it to me. but i know people don’t want to listen to my showtunes (i’d get along with your fi, that’s all i listen too!) so he got to be in charge of the playlist. we pretty much have just been picking what’s important to us to decide who gets to take charge. but we’re not one person, we have different opinions and taste, and our wedding shows that. i’m ok with that.

Post # 5
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Worker bee

Lol I totally have this problem. For instance, Fiance wanted Metallica for our first dance song – um, no. Sorry to any rocker chicks out there, but this completely goes against my Van Morrison plans! He LOVES, and I mean LOVES, black. He wanted a tux that was completely black…like even the shirt. He showed me online and I was like “wow honey, that’s, uh, yeah, great!” It looks like a pimp outfit – literally. Anyway, it was stressful in the beginning because our vision was not the same at all. Gradually, we both let go of things and compromised – he picked things he HAD to have, and I kinda got control of everything else;) His big thing is black table runners. This isn’t such a big deal until you consider that our colors are cranberry and silver. So, yeah, I’m trying desperately to come up with a centerpiece idea that incorporates all this. I have to continually remind myself that certain things just aren’t worth the argument…and also that he usually forgets anyway and I get what I originally wanted lol. Try and find things you both like, and then each incorporate your individual style. Things got better whe we tried to focus on what we both liked, and/or what was REALLY important to the other. There is so much foccus on having a cohesive “theme”, but honestly that is something that in all lkelihood only you will notice – not the guests.

Post # 7
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Worker bee

ooooh ok i totally will – thanks! didn’t know that was even here!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

How does your Fiance feel? Me and mine are the same way as far as being opposites, once I started trying to make it about “us” it was apparent that he wasn’t into it…so I ask for his input as much as he can stand and otherwise alot of things will probably be “my style”. I think the expression of you two will be your moments together at the wedding!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

My husband & I tend to have very different music tastes also. He listens to old school rap & hip hop and I listen to a lot folk-y music. We tried to pick bands/genres we both like (reggae) and go from there. What we ended up doing for music selections was to have our guests each request a few songs and build the playlist from there, so that everyone had at least one song that they love!

 As long as you both feel you’re tastes are represented then it’ll reflect you as a couple. Try to think if you both love a certain food & serve it (for us it was BBQ), use your favorite colors for decor, etc. I also let him pick out whatever he wanted to wear (including skater shoes) and he ran with it. I hated the tie he picked out, but HE picked it out, so I bit my tongue and went with it. He still looked really handsome though 🙂

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