Post # 1
Like the title says, I’m basically the last of my friends to get married. We’re all just about 30, and we’ve all been to (and been in) a slew of weddings since we graduated college.
As much as I know that the only REALLY important thing about our wedding day is our MARRIAGE…I can’t help but feel that after so many other weddings, ours might feel like “just another boring wedding” to guests who’ve been inundated with wedding invatations over the past couple of years.
So of course I’m trying to figure out how to make our wedding stand out, how to make it special and unique, without breaking the bank. We do not have an unlimited budget, and I live in an area where extremely fancy weddings and venues are the norm.
While we have a beautiful venue, it’s certainly not as swanky or ritzy as many I’ve been to. I’m not trying to outdo the fancier weddings–there is no way I could, and anyway my “favorite” wedding I’ve ever been to was not the fanciest, but definitely the most fun!
So I am in search of suggestions for how to put on a FUN and MEMORABLE party.
Any ideas? What details from your wedding did people remember, or what details have you remembered from other people’s weddings?
Post # 3
Honestly? Don’t worry about what your guests are thinking about the little details and focus on making your wedding *heartfelt* and *personal.*
The best weddings I have been to were nowhere near the most expensive ones- not even close. The most memorable weddings I have attended were the ones where the ceremony was so personal and meaningful to the couple that the rest of us got to experience a little of the love they have for each other. 🙂
The people at your wedding are supposed to be people who love you and who are close to you- so if it’s really obvious that you’re happy and having a great time, they’ll be happy, too.
So if you’re gonna ‘splurge,’ splurge on the little personal touches!
Post # 4
@LilySarah: Your DJ will play a major role in that! If you get a good DJ who can read the crowd and knows when to switch it up/into party mode, your guests will have a blast. And they’ll remember your wedding as fun and memorable.
Post # 5
@LilySarah: The best things are those little things–not how fancy or ritzy anything was. Each wedding has a special, personal touch because of the people getting married. For us, it was as simple as singing together. Everyone knows we both sing, so they were so happy that we sang together. We made music a big deal at our ceremony.
Other people made our wedding special. The BM gave every guy at the recpetion a duck or goose call to properly congratulate us (he and DH are big time hunters).
So really it is the little things, not the expensive things 🙂
Post # 6
@LilySarah: Dude, DH and I had our reception at a restaurant (in their private event lounge section) with an open bar, amazing food, rooftop deck to smoke, and no rules, and a bunch of guests came up to us and told DH and me that “we throw an amazing party.” My bff’s husband said that it was honestly the best wedding he’s ever been to. The best part? The event cost us about $8k (open bar, apps, meals) for 60-ish people (Check out my recap if you want to see what that looks like).
You say you’ve been to many weddings, right? What I would do is sit down with a notebook and write down 1) the boring/icky stuff at each wedding and 2) the stuff you liked at each wedding. Then go by that to create your own spectacular event. 🙂
Post # 7
I have not been to many weddings but of thd last three, each of them had something unique.
1. I was not in the bridal party but the bride was thoughtful enough to include me when gifting her bridesmaids the day before wedding. The reception was not fancy but since seating wasn’t assigned, I got to form new rerelationships.
2. The bride was Nigerian so the whole wedding&reception had a lot of unique elements. I liked the black cake (rum cake) that was served at the reception. Her maids also gave away individual flowers from the bouquet- instead of bouquet toss.
3. The band that played for the ceremony was great (they had great singers from her church). They were professionally trained singers.
Do what will make you happy. I don’t think anything that I mentioned was done to “impress.” It was part of who they were. Do what you enjoyed at other weddings. That is what people remember.
Post # 9
I would think outside the box in terms of favors, centerpieces, flowers, gift box and cake.
I would try to really personalize the cake to represent you and your FI.
Post # 10
Make it a fun wedding, then! There’s nothing wrong with having a fancy photobooth and crazy scavenger hunt games.
I personally thing weddings are boring (and I’m still having one) for the most part, so I always appreciate when someone goes out of their way to make sure people have a good time. 🙂
Post # 11
@LilySarah: Are you kidding? It should be easier for you to come up with stuff because you’ve already been to their weddings and have seen what they’ve done! 🙂
I like the PP’s statement about throwing a great party. I think that, too often, we concentrate on planning weddings when really we’re planning a huge party where you happen to be getting married first. Think about every great party you’ve been to, vacation you’ve been on, or great date that you shared. What elements would translate well to a big get together? Amazing appetizer from your favorite restaurant? Have your caterer make it! Best cake ever from your local bakery? Order one! Keep a list of cool things you’d like to include and find a way to make it all work.
Post # 12
Make it more like a great party. Spend your money on AWESOME food (not the normal catering crap) and drinks. Don’t worry about a bunch of stuff the guests don’t care about. Keep the boring stuff to an absolute minimum. Don’t have any spotlight dances.
Post # 13
@californiabride2013: No one cares about any of that stuff (guests I mean). None of that is going to make her wedding more fun for them.
Post # 14
@MrsNewDay: +1000 See, this sounds WAY more fun than 95% of weddings I’ve been to. We did something similar but with brunch – it was at a fancy hotel and the food and drink were amazing. We had a ballroom and also exclusive use of their terrace with another bar outside, so people could mingle and go back and forth (and smoke!). A couple of short speeches and that was it.
Post # 15
@oneofthesethings: I was making suggestions as to how to make her wedding stand out and look unique. Sometimes attention to fine details can make things interesting or fun.
Post # 16
@californiabride2013: I agree with you on the details. Some of the most photographed items at our informal outdoor wedding were the pie buffet (there was a cherry pie with a heart cut out of the crust), our vintage turntable playing records, and our DIY burlap banner.