- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2017
I’m not really sure where to start, but here goes…
I’ve been dreaming about my wedding for my ENTIRE life. Friends, family, food, drinks and most importantly, getting to publicly commit to spend the rest of my life with the man of my dreams. Finally, after waiting for what felt like way too long, my Fiance proposed last week! It was a magical proposal and being engaged is still magical 😀
In my excitement, I went out and picked up a couple of bridal magazines and have started looking for venues. So far, we’ve agreed that we want a fall wedding, next year. Something small, intimate and very VERY casual. We’ve also agreed that since we met and live in Montana, have lived here for years and most of our close friends are here that we will be getting married where our life is. His family (with the exception of his brother who is here)is in Washington state and isn’t very big. My LARGE and CLOSE family is in Pennsylvania.
Everyone from his side has been super happy and supportive when they ask when and where we will be getting married. My family has been hesitant. They don’t understand why we wouldn’t go back there to get married, despite my telling them that not only do we want to get married where our life together is, but that he woudln’t have many people there for him if we got married there. Almost every time I get off the phone with someone from PA, I hang up feeling guilty that we’re not getting married there, like I’m asking too much of the people that I would like to be there (although I’ve made it VERY clear that if they can’t make it we totally understand) and I feel like they think that I’m deliberately leaving people out because not everyone will be able to come. We don’t have a huge budget, and will be receiving very little (if any) financial help from family, so flying people out isn’t an option.
Let me insist that even though I’ve dreamed about the big family wedding when I was younger; the wedding that we’re starting to plan now is the wedding that I want. Here. in Montana.
We are looking at vacation rentals large enough to accommodate family who might have a hard time getting out here so that they havea place to stay, but already I almost feel like I just want to elope and say screw the wedding altogether.
Has anyone else been in a situation like this? How do you navigate family when you start planning? When are you or did you start looking at venues and places for out of town guests to stay?
Thanks in advance for your help Bees!