(Closed) How to negotiate

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I have heard from several wedding professional’s that the wedding industry is hurting because of the economy.

 My situation was that I am having an afternoon wedding. The room price was GREAT but the food minimum per person was higher than I would have cared for. I had talked to several other places so I knew the rates around town. When I found the venue I loved (I booked it one year ahead of time) I told them honestly that the food minimum was higher than I wanted, and that I would not need that much food for my afternoon wedding. The coordinator told me to shoot her an email with what I was thinkingm, so she could present it to her manager, and they ended up lowering the minumum by $5 per person, which = about $650+ savings for me.

So my advice would be:

Know your market

Be honest with the coordinator

Don’t be afraid to ask


If they won’t budge, then ask them if they can throw in any upgrades or extras, etc. If you really want to get married there, then make sure everything is perfect and you get yor money’s worth! Good luck!

Post # 4
13 posts

First get all the info from them as you would if you were going to be a regular bride. Be sure to get a breakdown of the wedding expenses-$10.50 for open bar, $4 for wedding cake, etc.  Having the breakdown allows you to negotiate MUCH better.

Decide what you want from the wedding and what you are willing to do without. 

Be aware that some places might not budge-I would be willing to walk.

Approach the venue with compliments. Tell them that you want to get married there, its your dream place BUT $125 a plate is more than you were expecting to spend. You notice that the price they quoted mentioned complete open bar, many appetizers, plated dinner, whatever-is there a way that the place could do without (something)?

Good luck!


Post # 5
349 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Rancho Bernardo Inn

I think being honest with the coordinator and giving her/him exactly what you want is best.  For my venue I asked about any other days that they’d be able to work closer to my budget.  I ended up with a Sunday wedding of Labor Day weekend, so I have Sunday prices but it’s still like a weekend because everyone has Monday off. Do you have a set day in March you are trying to get?

Also, see if they can help you in other areas.  Our chairs are being rented from them and they lowered the cost per chair.  

 I’m not familar with Trump Golf Course, although I am from the So Cal area.  In researching other venues in the area it seemed like some were more fleixble than others.  

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