Post # 1
How to you handle people who have already RSVP’d asking if they can bring their kids?
I had a guest email me tonight asking if our reception is kid friendly… here is my respons… is it nice enough?
Yes, we are very exciting about our upcoming wedding!
The only kids that will be there are immediate family members – so it’s not really kid friendly.
We have a few kids in our wedding party but I believe they will be going with a babysitter for the reception as far as I know.
Excited to see you and Husband!
I am considering omitting the 4th line of dialogue about having the kids in our wedding party.
The thing is – most of the kids in our wedding will probably stay for the reception. But they are only family (plus my boss’ child – who is my ring bearer).
We wouldn’t have a problem with this guest brining their 1 year old – but they also have a teenager (which would cost the price of an adult meal at our venue) – and we just can’t add them. 🙁
I obviously cant say go ahead and bring your baby but not your other kid. lol. And my fiance said to tell them its only family…
I just dont want to come off rude…… :/
Post # 3
Don’t lie by saying they will be going with a babysitter if they won’t. Just say something along the lines of, “Unfortunately, due to space/budget (pick one or both) concerns, we can’t invite everyone, so we have limited our invitations to include only children in the wedding party and children of immediate family. We hope you’ll still be able to make it!” If you know of a great babysitter, you can offer to share the information with them if they need/want it.
Post # 4
“unfortunately we are not able to accomodate any children beyond the immediate family. While we wish we could, unfortunately it is just not possible for us due to space and budget limitations. We hope you’ll still be able to make it”
Post # 5
@Miss Apricot: +1
You don’t need to justify it to them, just be upbeat and slightly apologetic, but reiterate that you just can’t have more children or people in general.
Post # 6
@Miss Apricot: yeah – I def didn’t want to seem like a liar. Honestly there will be a babysitter (for the littler kids ie ring bearers) but the older kids will most likely hang at the reception. I think omitting this is good thought bc I don’t want to suggest that the babysitter would be watching ALL kids.
I love the “Unfortunately, due to space/budget (pick one or both) concerns, we can’t invite everyone, so we have limited our invitations to include only children in the wedding party and children of immediate family. We hope you’ll still be able to make it!” but can you guys think of something to say other than space/budget?? I feel like that might be a weak reason when she’s asking about just a baby (even though assume the teen would come too), since baby wouldnt eat or cost, lol.
I’m sorry for all the ?s!! But I soooooo appreciate this!!!
Post # 7
Hm — I wonder if there is a way to invite the baby (since then she wouldn’t have to get a babysitter) without inviting the teenager, but I suspect there isn’t a great way to do it unless you’re close friends.
Post # 8
@Sparkle Pony: I feel like that might be a weak reason when she’s asking about just a baby (even though assume the teen would come too), since baby wouldnt eat or cost, lol.
Well, the BABY might not eat or throw your budget or spacing out of whack, but if you invite the baby, you have to invite the teenager. If you invite HER kid(s), you have to invite Sally’s kids, and Suzy’s kids, and Henry’s kids….you don’t need to tell her that unless she responds with, “Oh, but Molly and Johnny won’t eat much!”
Post # 9
@Miss Apricot: lol true – thanks! 🙂
Post # 10
Don’t give people a reason or any excuses, they’ll come up with some way around it. All you have to say is “The invitation was just for you and your husband – we are looking forward to seeing you there!”