(Closed) how to nicely handle people asking if they can bring (not invited) children?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Don’t lie by saying they will be going with a babysitter if they won’t.  Just say something along the lines of, “Unfortunately, due to space/budget (pick one or both) concerns, we can’t invite everyone, so we have limited our invitations to include only children in the wedding party and children of immediate family.  We hope you’ll still be able to make it!”  If you know of a great babysitter, you can offer to share the information with them if they need/want it.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

“unfortunately we are not able to accomodate any children beyond the immediate family. While we wish we could, unfortunately it is just not possible for us due to space and budget limitations. We hope you’ll still be able to make it”

Post # 5
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915 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Miss Apricot:  +1 

You don’t need to justify it to them, just be upbeat and slightly apologetic, but reiterate that you just can’t have more children or people in general.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Hm — I wonder if there is a way to invite the baby (since then she wouldn’t have to get a babysitter) without inviting the teenager, but I suspect there isn’t a great way to do it unless you’re close friends.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

@Sparkle Pony:  I feel like that might be a weak reason when she’s asking about just a baby (even though  assume the teen would come too), since baby wouldnt eat or cost, lol.

Well, the BABY might not eat or throw your budget or spacing out of whack, but if you invite the baby, you have to invite the teenager.  If you invite HER kid(s), you have to invite Sally’s kids, and Suzy’s kids, and Henry’s kids….you don’t need to tell her that unless she responds with, “Oh, but Molly and Johnny won’t eat much!”

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Don’t give people a reason or any excuses, they’ll come up with some way around it.  All you have to say is “The invitation was just for you and your husband – we are looking forward to seeing you there!”

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