(Closed) How to nicely tell someone they are not invited??

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would just politely explain that your venue is extremely limited, and as such, you could only invite 50 people. That’s a small enough number that, hopefully, she’ll understand that you and your Fiance had to make some tough decisions when deciding who to invite. If you focus on the venue limitations, I don’t think she’ll take it personally or anything. Hopefully she’ll see that only your very nearest and dearest were invited to the wedding. 

Post # 4
3373 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Say that “actually we’ve only invited family and bridal party to our wedding.”

Post # 6
7152 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Just say exactly what you told us.

Post # 7
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Yep.  Just be direct about it.  I said something like, “We’re blessed that a lot of people want to celebrate with us, but we’ve had to stick to family and bridal party only.”

Post # 8
3315 posts
Sugar bee

@Hbhb: I think that when she doesn’t receive an invitation she will figure it out. 

Post # 9
7582 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

You have to be direct. If you don’t tell her now and just wait her feelings will be even more hurt then.

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