(Closed) How to not cry while reciting your vows?

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
13561 posts
Honey Beekeeper

You know what? I always figured I would sob my way through our traditional vows, but adrenaline kicked in on our wedding day and I made it through!

I don’t think you should try to stop yourself from crying, but maybe have a handkerchief on hand in case you need it. You could have your Maid/Matron of Honor or even your groom hold it. How cute would it be for him to pull it out of his pocket and hand to you during the vows?

Post # 4
457 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My voice cracked a little in the beginning and then I got better. I just told myself to suck it up! I also planned a “first look” so I could see him beforehand and not cry walking down the aisle. I def cried during my first look.

Someone later told me that my voice cracking and little tears were perfect. I had the entire audience crying.

Post # 6
9947 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

First Wedding (circa 1980) I was determined not to cry… having gone to a Cousin’s Wedding a few weeks earlier, and half the church was literally wailing (we are talking not just sniffy crying… real bawling).  It was very emotional… but really… the Bride, the Groom, the FOB, MOB, MOG, and every Aunt, Uncle, and Grand Parent in the place was sobbing.

No way… I made up my mind that getting married was a HAPPY OCCASION and I would not cry

I was certainly nervous.. but I was intentionally stoic.  As someone else said, probably had a lot to do with nervous energy / adrenaline

This time round…

I fully expect to be a sniffling sobbing mess… lol

It will just be Mr TTR and I alone for our Elopement to a Destination Wedding on the Beach overlooking the Atlantic Ocean with our Officiant… so no one else to impress

Mr TTR is an AMAZING man and I am very very fortunate to have him in my life.  When you find LOVE again after so much pain (my first husband became and alcoholic and abusive) there is a pure sense of JOY and amazing gratitude.  I am truly blessed.

Yup, I expect to be a big ol mess of tears & blabbering idiot when I say my vows.

But ya know… I wouldn’t trade that for anything… just one more contrast to my first Wedding.


Post # 7
5278 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@araneidae:  Girl, you got to roll with it! 🙂 

I really thought I was going to cry, but when the wedding started my adrenaline was pumping and I felt more hyper then super emotional. BUT, what I didn’t expect was the kicker: my husband started crying, actually it was more like loud sobbing. So needless to stay I didn’t stand a chance, nor did my parents, and all my bridesmaids, it was a wet faced mess. But the experience made it so memorable, and I love thiking back about how our ceremony was so full of emotion! 

Post # 8
559 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

guess I didnt think of this-tagging so I can see what people say. I just thought I would brave my way through it. maybe I’ll have a shorter version prepared, just in case i lose it! lol. we are also doing a 1st look, so I think that this will help. Along with champagne mimosas mmmm.  🙂

Post # 9
3072 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I made sure to take a deep breath before I started.  I was also pressing my tongue against the roof of my mouth before I started, which helped.  I told one of the groomsmen to make funny faces at me if I started to tear up.  My voice cracked a little, but overall it was perfect!

Post # 10
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Will you go over your vows at the rehearsal, or will you hear them for the first time at the actual ceremony?  For me, the rehearsal was key (we used traditional vows).  I started balling saying them at the rehearsal (much to my surprise), but by doing it then, I made it through the ceremony sob-free.  There is so much going on during a wedding day, with so many emotions going around, you might be able to take in your vows better if you hear them first at your rehearsal.  A friend who sang at our wedding, and therefore saw me lose it during the rehearsal, advised looking up and taking a deep breath.  When I came down the aisle and saw some family members with dewey eyes and felt the prickle behind my eyes, after I cursed those family members in my mind :), I did the look up/deep breath trick and it worked.

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