- 5 years ago
People asking for money… more specifically family members, but can be anyone.
How do you not feel bad? Don’t get me wrong, i have probably gave more than my fair share of money to these family members. Everyone tells me “stop” or “just dont” and “they will figure it out”. They do lie, i wont deny that. And they make the worse financial decisions possible. But it doesnt mean they don’t struggle too. They have health issues and work issues and everything else under the sun.
When is enough, enough? I usually dont give anything that i cant survive without, because although they are usually tied to promises of repaying on X date, it rarely comes. I gave a very small amount on Saturday ($25) and now being asked for $100 until Friday. It is usually $50 here and $100 there. There has to be a point that i draw the line, but now i sit here feeling like crap for the rest of the day because the money IS in my account. However, i have bills to pay too! I need to pay off my CC debt and every dollar i give them is taken away from paying down that debt.
I dont know what to do. This has been going on for a few years. I am 25 years old and i cant take care of my dad and brother for the rest of my life. Its a long story, but i dont know what to do. There is not really any hopes of them getting truly back on their feet. My dad owns a business and they work when they can, but its slow, plus their health issues are only getting worse. How can i help them without suffering myself? Not just financially but the emotional guilt that comes with it. I feel bad if i do give (for myself) and i feel bad if i dont give (for them).