Post # 1
I was at a wedding this weekend and it was so freaking boring I wanted to leave before dessert. I got to thinking that I really don’t want people to think my wedding is so boring so what to avoid.
This wedding was so boring mainly becasue it was the bride’s mother’s show, and she really only cared about her and her friends having fun and no one else, we’re talking dressing up in constume and dancing to carnival music, providing a “drunk bus” only for her friends, so yeah most of the friends of the couple were stone cold sober, having the wedding on a Sunday when most of us have to go to work anyway, having the hugest tables ever so you cannot hear the person across from you, having a really bad string band wonder around playing over your head while you try to eat, not starting the dance until 11, then 45 mins later playing carnival music and having a few drunk 50-60 year olds take over!
I know I am avoiding all of the above.
Post # 3
Ugh, that sounds terrible!
The most boring wedding I ever went to was FI’s cousin’s. They had a dry wedding, not because they are religious, but because they are cheap (they could have afforded it.) There was no dancing, or band, just one CD playing on loop. Some kids started dancing and playing with a piece of tulle that had fallen off the wall and the MOB told them to sit down. We didn’t know anyone on the table we were at except FIs other cousins who are 20 years older than us and Fiance has only met them a few times in his life. Oh and they ran out of food before they got to our table. So we were hungry and bored, we ended up leaving at 10, and going to the pub!
Post # 4
Usually the boring weddings I have attended are all because it is drawn out and not moving along fast enough. Dinner gets to be too long or there is just too much waiting around. People don’t want to wait around, they want to eat and get the party started, as rude as that sounds, it is the truth!
Post # 5
@Atalanta: I’m so confused – carnival music?
I agree with PP – boring weddings are those that run too long, speeches are so drawn out (One wedding I went to, the Maid/Matron of Honor cried through her speech to hard you couldn’t really understand her….awkward).
Post # 6
@med700: like this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zd5ammWaoNI
(It was in Europe, but no, it is not tradition to play the kind of stuff at weddings)
Post # 7
The most boring wedding I went to was the one where I thought I would starve to death. There was a full catholic mass which was fine, and then cocktail hour at the reception hall about an hour away. After getting lost and trying to find parking, there was no food left at cocktail hour! ok..no biggie. Except that dinner wasnt served for almost 3 hours later. Everyone sort of sat in their seats the whole time waiting for food to come out. And nobody danced until after dinner, which only left about an hour or so of the reception.
Post # 8
Limit the speeches and special dances. I get so bored when the toasts and dances drag on forever, especially when dinner is being withheld because the couple wants a captive audience.
Post # 9
I agree on the limiting the speeches and dances. Not everyone in the bridal party has to speak. Our rehearsal dinner was for that. It turned into a “Come to Jesus” speech fest about my husband and I. For the Rehearsal Dinner, it was fine, for the wedding, it wasn’t.
I’ve been to weddings where it was so structured that it was boring too. It all felt very routine sort of thing, like one step to the next with goings on of the night. With that one, I remember thinking that the wedding went too fast at one point because they only had the space for a limited time. Once you got through the motions of the wedding, there wasn’t a lot of time left to enjoy everything. Just another thing to keep in mind.
My best advice is to set the have fun and dancing tone early in the evening. When our bridal party was introduced, they did a dance to “Let’s Get the Party Started.” I picked out the song, but the dance was a surprise. Seriously, set the tone early and the rest of the night will follow. With that one song, I really think that we set the stage for a fun, entertaining wedding.
Post # 10
Based on my own wedding and other fun ones I’ve been to, I would say the best tips are: have your wedding at night, don’t have it on a weeknight (Sun-Thursday), keep the ceremony/speeches/special dances short and sweet, keep the booze flowing, make sure the DJ/band is going to play fun/dance music, serve a full, tasty meal (I always hear people tend to eat more at weddings than they would at a restaurant or home), have a decent-sized space for dancing, and try to make the location convenient (either have it close to home, or block rooms from nearby hotels, or provide transportation).
Post # 11
I thought my wedding day flew by so fast. I know we had an AWESOME DJ and that is one thing I always take away from weddings. When your DJ is awesome and the food is awesome, then it is probably going to be a good night (from my perspective)… drinks help too but I am not a drinker.