Post # 1
I’m thinking of not having bridesmaids- just having my cousin (who is like my sister) be my Maid/Matron of Honor. However, there are certain girls that I really want to honor. But, I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. How do you not select someone to be a bridesmaid when you have been in their wedding party? How do you select one person from a group of tight friends?
Anyone else not having a traditional wedding party, and have some awesome ideas to share? I want to have pictures with my best friends, and I wouldn’t mind them dressing somewhat alike, but I don’t need anyone to walk down the aisle… Plus the Fiance does not want to select a Bridesmaid or Best Man.
Post # 3
Well you could have them be your bridesmaids and just not walk down the aisle and stand with you. They could just be seated in a frontward row. You could also not have them. I don’t think they would be offended especially if you are just having one family member stand with you.
Post # 4
Yeah, that’s a good idea. None of them are offended that I’m just having my cousin, it’s just that if I selected a bridal party, I would have some offended friends. I’m sort of avoiding the whole thing to not offend those few…
Post # 5
i like heather25’s idea of having them all seated. that seems like it takes all the stress away of having to chose amoung your friends. i stressed that one for a couple months. you and your friends could even go out shopping to find them affordable similar dresses! make a girls day of it and have fun with it!!!
Post # 6
I don’t have good advice on this b/c I’m struggling with a similar situation…not to hijack your thread, but I’m wondering if there is conventional etiquette on what to do if you’ve been in someone’s wedding…do you have to ask them to be in yours?
Post # 7
Exactly. Wondering the same thing myself! I was a Maid/Matron of Honor in a friend’s wedding like 7 years ago (she got married when we were still in college), and I love her dearly and truly, but am not as close with her now… even though, she will be a beloved guest at my wedding.
Post # 8
I have several very close friends. I selected my bridesmaids and then I called the two that I just didn’t have room for. I didn’t choose the only two who were already married, selecting that as my determining criteria. I was embarassed at first, but I talked it through with them, telling them that I loved them and that I wanted them included in my ceremony in some way. I told them that if they felt really attached to the Bridesmaid or Best Man role, I would of course make room for them. Guess what? I really think they weren’t hurt. They both thanked me for talking it through with them, and since both were married they understood my dilemma. Talking it through always helps!