(Closed) How to not hurt friends’ feelings while selecting bridesmaids

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1962 posts
Buzzing bee

Well you could have them be your bridesmaids and just not walk down the aisle and stand with you.  They could just be seated in a frontward row.  You could also not have them.  I don’t think they would be offended especially if you are just having one family member stand with you.

Post # 5
305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

 i like heather25’s idea of having them all seated. that seems like it takes all the stress away of having to chose amoung your friends. i stressed that one for a couple months. you and your friends could even go out shopping to find them affordable similar dresses! make a girls day of it and have fun with it!!!

Post # 6
695 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t have good advice on this b/c I’m struggling with a similar situation…not to hijack your thread, but I’m wondering if there is conventional etiquette on what to do if you’ve been in someone’s wedding…do you have to ask them to be in yours?

Post # 8
8 posts
  • Wedding: August 2010

I have several very close friends. I selected my bridesmaids and then I called the two that I just didn’t have room for. I didn’t choose the only two who were already married, selecting that as my determining criteria. I was embarassed at first, but I talked it through with them, telling them that I loved them and that I wanted them included in my ceremony in some way. I told them that if they felt really attached to the Bridesmaid or Best Man role, I would of course make room for them. Guess what? I really think they weren’t hurt. They both thanked me for talking it through with them, and since both were married they understood my dilemma. Talking it through always helps!

Good luck!

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