(Closed) How to not invite my drama filled cousin…

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
5995 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would invite her. While she sounds like an unpleasant person, it doesn’t sound like she’d disrupt the wedding in any way. So there’s no real drama in inviting her, but potentially major drama if you don’t. Also, though she’s been nasty to her father, it doesn’t sound like she’s actually been nasty to you, and it’s not your place to judge her interactions with her father. Just seat her with her family and ignore her.

Post # 4
1290 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Hmm, I have a huge extended family and I didn’t invite most of my cousins on my dad’s side despite being FB friends bc I hardly know them. However I live 2,000 miles away from most of my family and had a 70 person wedding so probably easier. My oldest sister did the same thing for her wedding. If there were any pissed of people or hurt feelings I wasn’t made aware of it. also my family in general manages to steer clear of drama so that helped too I’m sure. I thought if it like, “if cousin x didn’t invite me to her wedding, but did invite cousin y would I be hurt?” No was my answer. In fact, I would be glad it saved me a wedding gift.

Post # 5
1076 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Our wedding is going by who we are closest to, not ‘levels’. For instance, my first cousins on mum’s side are invited, my cousins on dad’s side are not. FH is inviting 2 third cousins, but is not inviting many of his first cousins. I don’t see why you would have to invite her, she may think it’s a little weird given that you haven’t spoken to her in 5 years, and if it’s an intimate wedding you want then it doesn’t make sense to invite her.

If you do think it will cause drama by not inviting her (i don’t understand why you should be expected to, but whatever) then it would be easier for you to do it. Personally, I wouldn’t, just because you haven’t seen her in so long, don’t like her and I just can’t see any reason she should be invited just because you’re related to her.

Post # 6
1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

If you haven’t seen her and don’t really speak there is no rule that you must invite someone to YOUR wedding. Just tell your grandparents you are keeping it small and she isn’t invited and still invite your other 2 cousins who you are closer to.

Post # 7
2478 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

How about u get off FB until the wedding is over… don’t just don’t even mention it. SAy no. Claim poverty. Just defriend her. To hey with the drama llamas. You’re a grown ass woman,aren’t you? Just plan your wedding and this chick can go go heck.

Post # 8
132 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I say go ahead, don’t invite her… but be prepared to start a big old family war. 

I really don’t understand, you don’t like her but it doesn’t seem that she ever did anything particularly bad to you so yes, snubbing her is going to divide the family. I would think that you wouldn’t want to distract from your wedding by inventing a huge unnecessary conflict……but whatever



Of course you don’t HAVE to invite anyone if you don’t want to….but just be prepared for the fallout

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