How to not invite one set of cousins to the wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
153 posts
Blushing bee

Tell her its the headcount thing and that you haven’t been close…

Post # 3
4046 posts
Honey bee

Without using the word “shithead,” and being as delicate as possible, you can tell your grandmother that your cousins were using drugs, before and at your sister’s wedding, and the behavioral consequences were not pretty. Anything else might come off as a weak excuse.

My daughter and SIL were married this past summer; they only invited 6 of 8 aunts/uncles and 6 of 9 first cousins. It’s not unheard of to only invite those that you/your parents see, or have a relatonship with. BTW, my daughter received 2 nasty e-mails, from her grandmother, because she had no plans to invite her uncle’s family, to her wedding. The uncle didn’t even bother to RSVP, to her sister’s wedding last year, which was twice the size – no ccongratulatory e-mail, nothing, so we refused to waste an invitation on them again. Shared DNA does not equate an invitation. You and your parents set the guest list.

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