Guys think that you are nagging when you tell them to do something, instead of asking them to do it. Also, they think you are nagging when you tell them how or take over to show them how to do something. We try to help them, but they don’t see it that way. They see that a us having a lack of confidence in their abilities.
If he didn’t know how to clip the nails he should have let you know. Something for you in the future, try asking him if he has ever done “whatever” before, and if he has and you want him to do it, give him carte blanche; walk away for awhile, if you have to. You can always ask if he needs your help, if you see him struggling. If he says no, just say okay just let me know if you change your mind and if he says yes, then help him the best way you can. Remember to walk away without giving advice, sighing, etc., if how he is doing something bothers you.
Another good tip is to listen to his guy friends and learn how they get your guy to do stuff for them. Guys have a different way of asking things, but they do things for each other right away.
I had a problem with so-called nagging. I didn’t think I was, but that is how it was coming across, so I tried the things that I listed above and they work well for me. I have also asked my guy to let me know nicely if he thinks I am nagging, so I know right away and he asked me to do the same for him.
He also likes it when I give him a honey do list, so he can check off each thing as he gets it done. The list helps us both because he feels like he is accomplishing something and I can check the list; inconspicuously of course, to see how far he has gotten without having to “nag” him. Some guys do not like lists, so before giving hime one, ask him if he would appreciate a list. You could even make your self a list and then see who can complete the list first with a prize of the winners choosing at the end.
Remember guys have a different way of doing things, so what you ask him to do may not be done exactly as you would have done it yourself or in the time that you would have gotten it done, but eventually it will get done. If he doesn’t do something to your exact specifications, don’t get on him about it, just grow to love the way he does it, even though it may drive you crazy or when he isn’t around, fix it the way you would like it to be. Try to be patient. It will all work out in the end.
These things seem to be working for us. We rareley argue about anything anymore and we have been together for 9 1/2 years. Long story, but when we first got together, I wanted to get married and he didn’t, then he wanted to get married and I didn’t, and now we both do.