(Closed) How to not stress out over your bridesmaids…

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
430 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - The Skinner Barn

@dmk90716:  I feel very similarly to you. I love my bridesmaids, but they’re not meant to be at my every beck and call for the next 10 months. I’m young so this is the first time my best friend has been a bridesmaid so she actually came to me and asked what her responsibilities were. I really appreciated that. My response? You’re responsible for a bachelorette party of some sort, buying a dress, and maybe talk to my mom and sister about the bridal shower. I can pretty much handle anything else. I think that if I don’t go bride-zilla on them, they’ll be much more likely to want to help me when I need it. I can’t thank my girls enough for standing by my side during my wedding. I want to make sure they know how much I appreciate that.

Post # 4
48 posts
  • Wedding: January 2014

That’s right, we choose the people who we want to stand up there with us on our day because they are special to us. We need to let them know that they are special to us and treat them that way because we want them to still be special to us and a part of our lives in 20 years time.

Post # 5
964 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My ladies were great with the exception of 1.  She just dropped out of the wedding 35 days before the wedding and I haven’t heard from her since.   She hasn’t even congratulated me. My other ladies were the BEST!

Post # 6
381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@dmk90716:  I agree with you in every single way.. I think some brides truely think their wedding is the MOST IMPORTANT THING EVER.  In reality it’s not it’s just a wedding.  Just another wedding for people and quite honestly nobody cares if BMs are wearing matching shoes (this is one of my pet peeves that brides do).  pick a color for them and thats it.

Post # 7
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

in my life, I’ve been a bridesmaid 7 times.


during the planning and those 7 weddings, I’ve witnessed enough f-en drama to fill a week on Lifetime network.


One of the smartest things I ever did was to just have my sister as an attendant.  I didn’t have to deal with any attitude or long dress debates.  The plus thing on this is my sister was able to choose the dress she wanted to wear….and I’m pretty sure that years from now i will still be in contact with her!  



If one of your bridesmaids is being that Blaise about the wedding, I would ask her candidly (in private) if she still wants to be a part of the wedding.  Often times, I think, people automatically  accept without fully thinking it through…or maybe she never really was on board but felt a sense of duty to say yes.



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