(Closed) How to not worry about miscarriage?

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@figgnewton:  I’m 12 weeks come Tuesday and I still worry about miscarriage.  I wonder when I’ll stop ๐Ÿ™‚  This is my second pregnancy (I chose to terminate the first) but is the first pregnancy I’ve been actively worried about being healthy.  I think reading is my biggest problem, like you I look up all the stats and everything, but read the horror stories, too.  And I read so many stories of women who do everything “right” and still end up losing their baby.  Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that the worrying is, I think, completely normal and expected.  And I guess we just need to relax and enjoy the process and leave it up to come what may ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It’s difficult but I just tried to put it out of my mind. I was already doing everything in my power to prevent it, like getting the nutirents I needed, taking my vitamins, getting good rest and being careful with physical activity/heavy lifitng. After that, it’s out of your hands. I’m somewhat religious so I told myself if this baby was meant to be ours God will make it happen.

Try not to put too much pressure on yourself, there’s only so much we can do to keep those babies hanging in there. The rest is up to nature to take care of.

I’m almost 21 weeks now, and I am less and less worried everyday.

 

ETA- Forgot to say, I had cramping my entire first trimester but never any bleeding.. so cramping can be totally normal.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Taking your prenatal? And following all “orders” from the dr on what not to eat/drink and do? You should be fine. You’re body is just growing for the baby ๐Ÿ™‚ don’t worry about it!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t think there’s a way to stop. Some cramping is normal. You just have to try to relax and focus on other things. Stress is no good for either of you. Trust me I’ve been there & I know its hard but you try to distract yourself with a book or something. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

STOP looking up stats.  Google is not your friend.  You don’t worry about it the same way you don’t worry about world war 3… you understand there’s a risk, but you understand there is nothing you can do.  It’s out of your control.  

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am so worried about this too! Everytime I go pee I keep thinking there’s going to be blood when I wipe and every little cramp has me concerned. I just keep telling myself I need to stop reading crap online!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I am 15 weeks and feel the same as you do.  I have eliminated nearly everything questioned ( ex caffeine), am young, and healthy but it is still all I think about. :(.  ill probably stop in around  25 weeks.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t know if there’s any way to stop worrying. :/ I agree though, Google is NOT your friend. When I have weird symptoms I’ll check in my ‘what to expect’ new edition book. For many women cramps are normal and ‘iffy’ signs are normal- even spotty bleeding is normal. 

I have had one miscarriage before. I can say it was much worse/more severe than any period I’ve ever had and it was early, too. I still check now every time I go to the bathroom but no worries so far. From someone who’s had a miscarriage- you’ll know. (in my experience anyway). Even when I get cramping, spotting now nothing compares to the doubled-over cramping and blood of a MC. I hope this helps put your mind at rest! Most miscarriages early on are a result of genetics- nothing you could do to prevent it. It’s really out of your control if you do or if you don’t. 

My advice is to not go looking for new worries. You have enough on your plate and anxiety won’t help. Try focusing on the positives and how good your first pregnancy went! That alone is a great sign this one should go just fine as well. Chances are things are just fine and it’s normal to have the mommy worries- just know that with your health and history it sounds highly unlikely. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper

You already know this but I’m in the same boat. Especially with everything that’s been going on.

I’m trying to just think “it ain’t over until an ultrasound says it’s over”.  And praying, A LOT.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

i did this too. everyttime i went to the loo i checked for spotting (i did have some spotting which turned out to be from my cervix). 

I think its natural to worry and there isnt really alot you can do. heck im almost 30 weeks and now my worry is stillbirth- sorry i maybe shouldnt say that. but my point is if its going to happen its going to happen and no amount of worrying is going to change that so you ight as well put it to the back of your mind and enjoy your pregnancy.

I should probably take my own advise.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I read something once that said something like “Of course you will worry…it’s preparing you to worry about them for the next 18 years.”

Impossible not to worry about something going wrong, but you really have no control if you are taking proper care of yourself.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@figgnewton:  I guess you just have to force it out of your mind.

Obviously it would suck to have a miscarriage, but I guess that’s your body’s way of getting rid of an unhealthy/unviable fetus. I think miscarriage is pretty common.

I bet I will be the same way if/when I get pregnant! You’re young and healthy, you should be fine.

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