- 3 years ago
Hi bees. I am supremely blessed to have the most amazing and warm family. They welcomed my FI into the family warmly and treat him like one of their own. He calls them Mum and Dad which they really love and in turn they say he’s their son. My FMIL, although she was never unfriendly, has never really been warm and I have never felt embraced by the family – which I’m okay with. I understand everyone’s family dynamics are different. Also they live on the other side of the world so I deal with them very rarely. I also call her “Mum” and she addresses herself to me as such. However, she hates that my FI calls my parents mum and dad and is extremely upset about it and doesn’t want him to refer to them as such anymore. I know what she doesn’t know won’t hurt her, but when she comes here to visit for the wedding, it’s going to be a bit hurtful to my family and my parents are not going to think well of my FMIL. I’m not really sure what to do.
Also, my FBIL was supposed to be a groomsman. After we bought his $500 non-refundable suit, he decided that he didn’t want to wear it, he wants to wear a suit he already owns because he has now decided he doesn’t want to spend the money. The other groomsmen have their suits already and are very happy with them. I really don’t want to have 2 guys in matching suits and 1 in a suit of his own choosing – small details I know but it’s my wedding!
There have been so many dramas from the beginning including the FILs threatening to boycott the wedding if we didn’t include FI’s 15 year old nephew in the wedding amongst others.
Just exhausted and not really knowing how to handle all of this gracefully….
Any advice appreciated!