(Closed) How to Personalize A Civil Ceremony?

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We had a judge officiate our ceremony and we wrote the entire ceremony. Reach out to the magistrate in the area and see what he’s willing to do. He may be really flexible.

Another option – Do the parts you want to do (i.e, unity ceremony, personal vows, readings) with a close friend “officiating” those parts, then he steps aside for the magistrate to do the official marriage/pronouncement.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Overjoyed:  

One of our friends is officiating the ceremony and my Fiance and I wrote out the whole ceremony. I looked through a lot of different ceremony documents on the net and we picked out what we liked and what represetened us the best. 🙂 One of the main things is that we’re doing a blessing of the hands.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@overjoyed Thanks for creating this thread. I’m also a JW but my Fiance is a non-believer. He is supportive of my studying but he was not comfortable at all when i suggested we should have my Uncle (an elder) conduct the talk. He’s not religious and doesn’t want to offend his family and friends who are not either. I was dissappinted because really, its about us and i’m pretty sure our family and friends won’t mind sitting through a 20 minute ceremony. But fair enough. Long story short, i’ve come to realize we can’t have a JW ceremony because it won’t be a JW wedding, as in we can’t really control how much people drink, toasts etc. We’ve since booked a minister from another church for the simple fact that he is a lovely, humble guy – is it possible that he conduct a ceremony more in line with my beliefs while still respecting my FI’s wishes?

 

Post # 7
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7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Why don’t you got to the magistrate to register your marriage, then have your own personal ceremony at another time? You could make it anything you want it to be! 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

We are using a non-denominational officiant and she actually sent us samples of ceremonies. We have her for up to an hour long ceremony (we’re going with 20-30 minutes though) and we can basically have whatever we want in there. She said we just have to have a couple of lines that are legally required but the rest is up to us.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We also used a non-denominational officiant for our wedding. He wrote our vows after sitting down with us and discussing our wedding ideas and what we wanted (our vows were perfect, BTW). We also incorporated a wine ceremony because we liked the idea of a unity part to our ceremony, but the unity candle or sand ceremony just wasnt us. To end our ceremony we chose to have our officiant read an apache blessing, which was really nice. I loved everything about our ceremony because it was perfectly us!

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Overjoyed:  He’s really a marriage celebrant, but he’s also a minister at his own church? Is that the same thing?

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Overjoyed:  Thanks for your thoughts. We are getting married on a beach and the celebrant has confirmed we can have whatever kind of ceremony we want. I’ve seen him perform many non-religious ceremonies before at weddings that we’ve photographed (we are wedding photographers) so thats why we booked him. AND thats why i’m following this thread, how to personalize the ceremony! Could you have an elder do your wedding talk and then a celebrant step in and do the legal parts? I’ve seen this done at my cousins weddings a few months ago…

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