- 8 years ago
- Wedding: February 2011
I am having 3 attendants. My 2 remaining older sisters and my niece.
I was not planning on having a MoH, but in the meeting with the church they want me to name one and when I asked if I had to, Fiance expressed that he also thought one should be designated as Maid of Honor.
I am close to both sisters. Sister 3 is 9 years older than me and lives a few miles up the road. We are talk regularly and she is very helpful and dependable. FI will likely have her husband stand as a Groomsmen. Sister 2 is 11 years older than me and lives back home about 2 hours away. She is dependable but very busy as she has kind of been stuck part-time raising her grandchildren. She was married for a long time to an emotionally abusive guy and tends to be very self-critical and down on herself. We talk regularly as well and like a lot of the same things. Her youngest daughter is the 3rd bridesmaid.
Sister 2 had Sister 1 as her MoH in her wedding 30some years ago. When Sister 3 got married 25 years ago she also had Sister 1 as her MoH and Sister 2 was very hurt and angry that it wasn’t her. Sister 1 died many years ago.
SOoooo. I have no idea how to pick between my sisters. Sister 3 will likely be more helpful either way as she is local and willing to help me. She would also likely be very understanding if Sister 2 is the MoH. Sister 2 would not be able to help me much but would be honored (course so would Sister 3).
Our mom says just to have them draws straws and then no one can complain, but that kind of seems like a cop-out as well. FI says have Sister 2 because Sister 3 will understand and then Sister 3 can stand with her own husband instead of the best man. I just want someone else to figure out all the details so I can just show up and marry my honey!
How do I pick?