(Closed) How to Plan a Wedding When Your Family is Falling Apart

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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105 posts
Blushing bee

Sorry you have to deal with this. Truth be told, there are family members on both sides that we just don’t bother to talk to. If someone is bringing nothing but pain to your life, it’s best to just cut them out altogether. You deserve to be happy! Tell them to screw themselves. Take it from me, you will be much happier once it’s over and they’re out of your life!

Post # 3
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101 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

We’re experiencing the same thing, I feel for you bee! We’ve decided to just not include people and their negativity in our day! It wasn’t an easy decision to make, so lean on that support girl! Best of luck! 

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper

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shortbread654 :  

Yeah, don’t  not invite or anything, , unless  behaviour is escalated to unbearable heights.  Just don’t talk to them  about it at all . Do your fun  stuff with future IL’s , and Fi.

Fuck ’em. Be ready later down the track though , for sister demands to be  Maid/Matron of Honor, or a big MOB presence and dress experience ( they will both  probably want  to wear ivory prom gowns ) or fatherly  aisle walking and ‘giving away’ etc . All of which you will decline with a pleasant  smile and a “oh I wouldn’t dream of bothering you to do that , I know you are  all busy , so please , rest   easy,its all taken care of ”  etc .

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2017

This sounds so similar to my story. Narcissistic mom, ended up finding out she stole money from me that I didn’t know was mine, weird relationship with dad as we only just started talking just over a year ago, immediate family is just a super weird situation and I’m the bad guy. I invited both parents, if they come do not behave they get kicked out end of story.

Easier said than done of course I keep having little mini breakdowns about the whole thing as the date approaches but you are most definitely not alone. I hope everything goes ok for you.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I know all about narcissistic mothers… I would say try to keep the wedding small and low-key so that there isn’t too much to do anyway. Don’t expect them to participate in any helpful way and just accept their presence, but with some kind of back-up plan for removing your mom if she starts throwing a fit. Good thing your in-laws are kind. My future mother in law is a gem, like the mother I never really got to have. <3

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