Post # 1
My first name is always misspelled (in a million different ways) because most people aren’t very observent. It’s been an issue all my life and although a lot of people wouldn’t care (one of my best friends still CALLS me by the wrong name because she refuses to admit that my name and the variant are different), it bugs me to no end. If your name is constantly misspelled or misspoken, it probably really bugs you too.
People hear the name wrong and call me by another name (like hearing Julie when my name is Julia) and then they SPELL it incorrectly either way (writing Catherine instead of Katherine, or Briana when my name is Brianna.) It’s a one letter difference when the mistake is made in writing.
I usually put up from it from strangers, but it was a REAL disappointment for me when EVERY SINGLE member of my husband’s family misspells my name. None of them can get it right, many making multiple mistakes.
We just received a package and a letter and my name was misspelled in both cases. I have to write a thank-you card on behalf of both of us, but how do I politely (but CLEARLY) correct the mistake? I don’t see them ever face-to-face so there’s no easy way to make light of the subject, and I dont know them well enough to be too blunt.
Anyone have any suggestions for the wording? The only thing I could come up with was,
Thank you again,
Brad and Brianna (with two n’s)
After more than a year of marriage, this shouldn’t be an issue I think! :< I mean, I know my Mother-In-Law writes emails to everyone under the sun with all of our business – why haven’t they noticed before? I mean, what about my wedding invitations that had my name in HUGE letters?
Don’t get me started on the phone calls, where they all slip up and say “Hi Brad and Beth… I mean, Brianna!” Beth – SIL. UGH.
Post # 3
My last (new) last name is easy to misspell and easy to mispronounce. I’ve been married for two years, and despite many corrections, my family (and my friends, and my co-workers, and even my boss) still spells and pronounces it incorrectly… and I’ve been with my husband for 7 years, so it’s not like they’ve never heard it before. Sigh.
Anyway, I’ve pretty much given up. It’s annoying, but everything I’ve tried (both subtle hints and direct corrections) haven’t worked. I’d be interested to see if anyone has a strategy that actually works!
Post # 4
I have a last name that is a guys’ first name so I get Mr. “my last name” all the time. Its annoying so I know how you feel. Also my name is spelled several different ways and sometimes my FI’s family spells it incorrectly. Bugs me a bit but I always make sure to CLEARLY and BOLDLY sign my name on all things. Maybe not the most poliet way but I don’t go over board with it just really emphasis it. You might ask your Fiance you polietly correct his own family. My Fiance has a very uncommon name that people try to either change into a girls name or into a particular celebrities name. I am the one who polietly corrects them rather then him because its less awkward for me to be like “yes uncle joe we are doing well, by the way my fiances name is ___ not ____”
ETA on a personal note, I’d rather be directly told I’m screwing someones name up rather than saying it wrong. also giving them some way to remember it also helps. like Mara as in Sara not Mar-a. Or Shanna like Banana not Shawn-a
Post # 5
I’m sorry to LOL but I must. I can totally relate.
People are always misspelling my name "Teresa". It really bugs me at work when I email somebody and sign it "Theresa." And they write back, "Teresa, blah blah blah." Or even worse, when they take liberties and call me Teri.
ATTENTION TO DETAIL, PEOPLE.
And now my DH’s family often calls me Maria (she’s my SIL) and some of them spell my name without the H.
I have made a decision to just let it go. Not worth creating tension over. They know I’m not Maria. But sometimes they just slip up. (Like when my mom would call me my brother’s name first when she was scolding me as a child.)
And it helps that sometimes my family mispells DH’s name too. 😀
Post # 6
Ugh. I don’t have any suggestions I just wanted to commiserate. I have a fairly common name with an uncommon spelling and slightly different pronunciation (thanks, Mom!) I honestly don’t care if people pronounce it wrong. Hell, half the time I’ll use the more traditional pronunciation when introducing myself to people because it’s easier. But the spelling kills me. Not from strangers, because I wouldn’t expect them to know about the spelling (seriously, pregnant bees? Don’t give your kid a traditional name with an untraditional spelling. It’s not cute or unique for the person with the name. It’s just annoying) but from people who should know better. Like people responding to an email with my name on it. Or people who have known me more than 5 minutes.
Post # 7
My ILs still spell my name wrong too. Both on my husband’s side and my brothers’ wives.
I don’t think it’s something you should get in a tizzy over. They probably aren’t doing it on purpose. Leave well enough alone and pray that many years of thank you notes and Christmas letters will subliminally teach them how to spell your name.
If you aren’t satisfied letting them figure it out on their own, your Darling Husband could give them a head’s up the next time he talks to them that your name is spelled [however].
I’d be put off if someone corrected me in a thank you note.
Post # 8
A lot of my future in laws don’t know how to spell my name right– so, for my shower thank you cards I used personalized stationary. Maybe it’s too subtle, but I think it’ll get the point across!
Post # 9
Unfortunately you cant correct the misspelling in the correspondence but you can tell your husband to tell his family how you spell your name! My name is ALWAYS misspelled. My name is Clare, which is Irish (there is a county, island and town all named it) and it is the correct spelling of the name. However, most people add an “i” in my name to make it Claire. It annoys me to no end! On our graduation cake my husbands family had my name spelled wrong but they quickly corrected it and from there on out never spelled it wrong again. You just need to have your husband say something to them!
Post # 10
I know it’s annoying (lord knows it happens to me all the time since there are about ten thousand possible spellings of my name), but I don’t think a thank you note is the best medium for bringing it up, so I’d just sign your name correctly spelled and let it go this time around.
Post # 11
I’d probably go,
Brad & BriaNNa
But I can be obnoxious about things like that. 😉 I’d be annoyed too! Heck, I get annoyed when starbucks baristas (total strangers!) misspell my name.
Post # 12
I don’t have advice on how to correct the mistake, but this would annoy me too. Luckily my first name is common and easy to spell. I kept my last name when I got married, though, and my husband’s family has never learned how to spell or pronounce it. That definitely bothers me! Especially in this age of electronic communications, where you can easily look up the correct spelling of someone’s name if you have an email from them, I really am not tolerant of people who are too lazy to look it up.
Post # 13
I understand your pain! I have a first name that is a common boys name but it’s spelled the girl’s way, so people are constantly calling me Mr! On top of that my last name is very easily mispronounced, so I get Mr. Wrong Last Name. Good thing with telemarketers I can always tell them there’s no one here by that name! I also have a client I deal with at work for always uses my first and last name on the phone and despite correcting him the first few times he still pronounces my last name wrong, I just cringe and deal.
I think with writing it’s just best to clearly sign your name and have your hubby note it later.
Post # 14
Two of MY aunts still spell my name wrong. Same deal. They add a letter. Honestly I just don’t care. Everyone always gets my last name wrong too actually although that is a lot more complicated (and that is more friends… not fam! lol). My rule is that I correct someone the first time they get it wrong, and after that I don’t bother.
Post # 15
@BrooklynBride10:Heck, I get annoyed when starbucks baristas (total strangers!) misspell my name.
That’s a bit much 😉 What you need is a “starbucks name.” Make up some totally random name and use it every time you go into Starbucks. Mine was “Tanisha” for awhile.
Try it, it’s fun!
Post # 16
@lezlers: My Starbucks name is “Mary White.” True story!