(Closed) How to politely decline a family ring? Or should I accept?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I initially wore my Grandmother’s wedding band (previous marriage) and later, wore it on my other hand.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

I would definitely accept. You don’t have to limt yourself to one wedding “band” and no need to hurt the relationship… It’s beautiful that She offered. The only way “out” is if your Fiance has siblings and you want them to share in such heirlooms

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would accept it.  You could wear it on one side, and wear the other that you want on the other side of the e-ring.  If you decide to change it down the line, you could wear it on the other hand.  If you think you might eventually regret it, chances are you probably will.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Roe:  I’d like to agree with your aunt, especially since the grandmother already gave you guys one ring.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Roe:  I think that’s a great idea!  That puts a whole new perspective on it!  Tell her that though you would love to have it, you already have something of hers and you don’t want to be stingy! 🙂  Save it for the brother so that he can have a piece of her, too. 🙂

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would accept the ring, she may have the intention that the engagement ring and wedding band stay together. If you are not using the engagement ring she gave you and your Fiance, maybe you could take them both and keep them for your future son or daughter? This way you get the ring you have your heart set on but it maintains the integrity of having her rings as an heirloom for future generations.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Well that changes everything! It sounds like she is a woman who loves jewelry and has plenty of it and probably just wants you to love your rings. Go with your gut! If the stainless steel is something that is important to you it sounds like she would understand.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

What metal is your e-ring? Ideally you need the same metal in your wedding band to avoid one wearing the other away.

You could always accept the ring and have it melted down and re-shaped into the hammered style of ring you want?

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Could you use her ring for the ceremony and then buy one you want after you are married?

We are not using our wedding bands for our ceremony.  I am using the ring my grandparents and parents were married in and my Fiance is going to use the ring his grandparents and parents were also married with.  It makes it more special, but after we are through we are going to give the rings back to our parents.

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