Post # 1
So, we have already reached our limit on guests due to Fiance big family we went over a bit. Then we decided to do our RSVP like this to avoid ppl bringing extra folks.
We have reserved __2__seats for you
Number of Guests Attending ____ (guest fill in this part) not with a 3 when we said 2
people are adding “billy bob and lil joe” Kids and dates. I asked guests (close friends) months ago and kept asking “do you want to bring a date, are you sure?!
Everyone said No, but now they want to bring a date.
Simply we have our numbers for venue and can’t afford extra people. My single Mom is paying for venue and feeding these guests.
How do I tell them no? Plus it’s a adult event, our friends don’t have kids except literally one married friend and then my coworkers are trying to bring kiddos.
How to respond to coworkers and that one friend. They never bring their kid and now want to.
Post # 3
just tell them they cant because of the space is limited and you are at full capacity/
Post # 5
I would speak to them since you’re going to see them at work you can’t hide behind an email. Say something along the lines of …… our venue fit into our BUDGET and while i wish I could have your children attend … The space is not unlimited and you know FI’s family is ridiculously large and we are actually over the number we are supposed to have. Maybe you guys could think of this as your date night and leave the kids at home.
Post # 6
@Uptowngirl2857: agreeing with PP, just call them back and say “I’m so sorry I was really looking forward to seeing Billy Bob and Lil Joe but unfortunately, we’re at the venue’s maximum capacity of people and can only invite this many people. We’re really looking forward to seeing you, though!” or something along those lines.
Post # 7
@asianyoushi: umm exactly THIS. You arent being mean…there is simply no space
Post # 8
“I’m sorry, your invitation was for X people. Our space is limited and we cannot add more than is on the invitation. If you have already told whoever you invited to come, please call them and tell them they cannot.”
If people are mad about it… “I’m sorry, we are at capacity. You must have misunderstood the invitation, please correct your mistake. If you do not, I will have to.”
If they won’t… feel free to call up the uninvited guests and throw whoever invited them under the bus! “Oh, I’m so sorry so-and-so was specifically told we had a limited amount of seating available, they made a mistake when they invited you and I’m terribly sorry to have to rescind the invitation on their behalf.”
Post # 9
@distracts: BURN. I hope 1) this doesn’t happen to me and 2) if it does I have the balls to do this haha
Post # 10
if people try to bring uninvited guest you may have to hire a bouncer and have people get id to get in…
Post # 11
You have to call them
And UNFORTUNATELY you do have to point out their Etiquette Faux Pas
“Hi we got your RSVP… and I notice that you have written in some additions beyond the (2) seats that we reserved for you as indicated on the Invite … Unfortunately our (budget / venue size) is such that we cannot accommodate extras. So could you let us know if you and (xxx) will still be joining us in light of this fact and that you are now coming alone”
The You and XXX Part refers to whomever’s names were on the Original Invite.
Sorry but I have NO TIME for folks that are this gauche… and honestly sweetie you were super nice in asking folks if they needed a Plus One ahead of time so you plan accordingly.
Invite out WITHOUT a name…. job done. One cannot add on whomever they please to an Official Invite / Wedding after the fact
Sadly, some folks need to be embarrassed into understanding this fact… it isn’t a Town Hall Meeting… it is a Wedding !!
Rant over. Carry on.
Honestly RSVPs are the worst part of planning a Wedding… you will survive (lol, maybe pull all your hair out… but you will survive)
Good Luck (( HUGS))
Post # 12
@This Time Round:
i saved this in my notes on my cell. I’m ready to text or tell the next guest who does this!! Thanks!!!
Post # 13
I don’t think it’s rude when you went out of your way to specifically tell them how many seats were reserved for them.
Post # 14
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@Uptowngirl2857: Call them individually and apologize. Tell them you have reserved X seats for their family due to your budget and space limitations and unfortunately you are unable to budge. You were expecting X and X to attend, however you are unable to accommodate Y and Z.
Post # 15
Don’t mention the budget. They’ll think it’s ok to bring the extra person if they offer to pay. Explain it as a capacity/space issue.
Post # 16
“Hi! I think there must have been a misunderstanding. We only have two seats available for you. We’re hoping you’ll still be able to make it, but we understand if you must decline.”