Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
ashes88: My bestie is the same way. She has driven me nuts for YEARS with her loose lips! I have just learned NOT to tell her things sometimes…and she totally doesn’t take it to heart because she (self admittedly) can’t keep things quiet. I have told/shown her very little about the wedding…and she gets it.
In your situation, I think it would be best to be blunt with her. Say stuff like “you are taking away from my big reveal”. Also tell her that if she can’t keep things secret she may be subject to exclusion from decisions/excursions….ok the second one is harsh…but depending on what type of person your friend is, a little shock may help.
This is tricky! Good luck!
Post # 17
Thank you Bees! I did stop telling her things quite a while ago, but she has helped me with quite a bit of things. She’s went dresses shopping with me, so that’s how she had the pictures. She’s my gym buddy, which is how she knows about my fitness and diet plans. She is helping me put together a lot of stuff, which is how she knows so much, so it’s hard hiding it from her. I am going to start being more direct with her now though. I don’t want these people she’s talking to knowing everything, and I definitely don’t want her sharing pictures of my big day with them after the fact!
Post # 18
Yeah… I’d definitely let her know all of the things you told us about what your coworkers are doing and how it makes you feel cornered, and judged, and harassed, and frankly you don’t appreciate being put in that situation by her. (It’s one think if you make yourself the center of attention and get that sort of feedback… but you’re precisely trying to avoid that situation!) Even if she knows all of the details, lay it out to her in one go.. so that she can see that it’s not just one small thing, its a lot of medium sized things that frankly if she cared about you she’d learn to STFU.
She probably doesn’t realize just how bad she is–she thinks she’s let one or two small details out (oops! teehee!) but if you give it to her straight, item after item after item and the crap you’ve had to put up with from coworkers item after item after item because of her big mouth, she might realize she’s basically the town squire.
Post # 19
ashes88: I would be annoyed- none of these things are her story to tell, and as your bridesmaid she should have the decency to respect you and your wishes for YOUR wedding. So rude.
I don’t think there’s any nice way to tell her. Let her know how you feel about what she has done and ask her to stop discussing your business with others.
Post # 20
- Wedding: May 2016 - St. John\'s Lutheran Church
snpmarin: Bounce house? Shish kebob bar? Fire spinner? Where can I attend this event?
Post # 21
marriedtopizza: If I had the budget, I’d have all of it! But we’re just doing fancy-ish lawn games instead, haha. (But I did look up the cost of a bounce house….still considering it. A third of our guest list is kids under 5 and it’s an outdoor event, so why not?)