Post # 1
I recently went to my graduation ceremony and as I walked down the aisle I did not see any smiling faces…instead all I saw was camera lenses! I found it rather distracting and told myself that I did not want to see that went I walked down the aisle on my wedding day. As a shutterbug myself, I have to remind myself to be more in the moment, instead of taking 3 angles of the same photo
I am spending a lot of money on my photographer (and their assistants) and you only do the ceremony once. I am not taking any chances with Uncle Bobs or potential distractions. However, I don’t want to start the communication with my guests on a sour note with a sternly wording: “No photography during ceremony.” Instead, I want to find a way to say it very politely.
No Photography during Ceremony We are so honoured you want to capture this special moment, but we would much rather see your smiling faces and so please refrain from taking photos during the ceremony. Don’t worry, we have full rights to our professional photographer’s photos and we will share them with you!
Feedback welcome, even nit picky wording, please help improve it!
Post # 3
I don’t know if I’d say that you just don’t want photography, but maybe say that flash photography isn’t allowed during the ceremony. Our pastor actually asked us to tell guests he didn’t want flash photos during the ceremony because it distracted from the ceremony and religious purpose. We didn’t put it in the programs, but spread it by word of mouth. I don’t remember seeing any flashes, so I suppose it worked.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t put it in the program, I would have your ceremony guy say it before the ceremony that there is to be no flash photography. It works best if you’re in a church, but it still works if you aren’t.
People like to take pics, though, and chances are when you are up there you wont be paying attention to faces in the crowd 😀
Post # 5
Our church is very bright, so ‘flash’ photography isn’t really the issue. (Our church doesn’t have a rule against it).
For me it’s more of a philosophy. We have so many distractions in our lives these days (cell phones, multi-tasking etc), that we can’t just focus on one thing. Call it selfish, but I really would like people to focus and listen to the wedding ceremony (especially because it’s probably something very different from what they have seen before, because it’s Greek Orthodox) than be distracted on taking photos.
My Future Mother-In-Law thinks it might be too strict and perhaps to just say none until the bride has walked down the aisle, but I think that’s more awkward to word in a programme, and I would prefer no photos from guests at all (again, ceremony only, they are free to take photos during reception).
Post # 6
Oh gosh! i’d never thought of this before! The last wedding I went to, I found myself snapping away during the ceremony (I’m pretty sure I saw other people doing it too), just because I love taking pictures and it was a really beautiful, scenic outdoor ceremony. Next time I’ll think before I jump ahead and do that!
As far as the wording, I would go with what you wrote except for the underlined first part. I wouldn’t outright state a “rule” like that… maybe start with, “A note about photography:” or something?
Post # 7
@spitfire229: This might have to be one of those things that you just have to let go. You can’t force people to pay attention, cameras or no. If you think its light enough inside where an average camera wouldn’t need a flash, then it’s going to be pretty hard to say no cameras, and actually have people listen.
Post # 8
If you want to say none, then it is your wedding. HOWEVER, for both my and my BIL’s weddings, some of the best candids were done by guests. We had a “photojournalist” so she was all about the candids, she just happened to miss some great shots between clicks. Just a thought. 🙂
Post # 9
I wouldn’t put it in the program, but maybe have your officiant make an announcement before the ceremony but after everyone is seated? I’d just keep it simple: I’d like to welcome you all here today to celebrate with ___ and ___ as they pledge their lives to one another. We’ll be beginning the ceremony in just a moment, but please note that photography is NOT allowed during the ceremony.
I wouldn’t give an explanation.
Post # 10
Yeah I think a no flash photography announcement from your celebrant will do.
Post # 11
Be careful about making a “promise” to share your professional photos. My Mother-In-Law wanted printed copies of all 700 edited photos we received! There are photos that I just don’t want her to have and don’t think she would be interested in – my family & friends, special/ favorite photos with my husband, etc.
Honestly, I was so wrapped up in what was going on with the ceremony that I didn’t realize that people were taking pictures until I got my professional pictures and he took a few showing guests taking pictures. If you really don’t want pictures, I would have an announcement made.
Post # 12
We don’t want people taking photos during our ceremony either. We have decided that we will allow photos during the procession only. Once I arrive at the altar, our pastor will announce that there is to be no photography during the ceremony. Our professional photographers will then be the only people taking pictures and be able to do so unobstructed. Guests will be able to take photos as we walk up the aisle together and then all night long at the reception.
Post # 13
I have been to a few weddings where it was asked in the programs. I never had a problem with it.
Post # 14
i don’t think there is anything wrong with asking people not to take pictures. you have every right to ask this, whatever your reasons are. however, i think it might be more effective if you take the suggestion PPs have made and have the officiant announce it.
its just that not everyone will necessarily read the program or if they do, they might not read every word. and unless you want to put it in caps and bold print, some people just won’t see it.
also making the announcement will bring it out in the open. no one can get away taking pics claiming they didn’t see the statement in the program.
i also think its fine to make an announcement AND put it in small print in the program, you know, so people know you are serious about it 😉
Post # 15
oh and as for wording in the program, here is my suggestion:
Please refrain from taking photos during the ceremony. We plan to share our professional photographer’s photos with you as soon as possible!!
i would prefer not to even mention the second sentence up there, but you also don’t want to confuse anyone and have them think “well if one person is doing it, then so can i!”
basically short and sweet is the way to go with these things i think
Post # 16
It was actually my photgrapher that requested the guests not take flash photos during the ceremony, and it was becuase the flash had the potential to ruin the lighting for her photos. This happened to a friends wedding I went to. Some photos were ruined because “Uncle Bob” kepts flashing away beside the photographer trying to catch the professional shots. Just another perspective!
We just asked our guests “no flash photography during the ceremony please” and it wasn’t an issue.