Post # 1
Fiance and have been saving for 5 years to pay for our own wedding and get a place together. I never thought we would be able to have our wedding at one of my favorite luxury hotels–which is super expensive. But it just so happens that they gave us an amazing deal since we’re having the wedding in December, and Fiance was able to negotiate a lot with them. It’s still expensive, but we plan to have no more than 100 people and to just keep it simple and elegant. It’s been over 2 months that we’ve booked the place and while I have told most people the date of the wedding, when they ask the location I say that “we’re negotiating with 2 places that have that date available” and I feel super shy about revealing the location because we are a young couple and I don’t want anyone assuming anything about us when they find out the location.
FSIL found out about the location a few days ago and I had a REALLY weird vibe from her–which resulted in me saying we got a really good deal. So annoying! But I have been able to tell a few close friends who I know won’t judge us and are genuinly happy.
Is there a way to reveal the wedding’s location to someone without having to follow it up by saying we saved up for it for years, and “we got a great deal” or “we’re just having a small wedding”–which is all true by the way. I just want to be able to tell someone the location without feeling weird about it or having to explain anything.
Post # 3
@violet25: My opinion is that you don’t have to explain anything. This is your (you and your FI’s) wedding and you don’t owe anyone an explanation for how/why you chose your venue.
Post # 4
@violet25: First of all – congratulations on finding the venue of your dreams and double congrats on the good bargain!
It really is such a bummer in life when people envy and are jealous, rather than being happy for your joy.
But, that is their problem – not yours!
Revel in the joy of your wedding. DO NOT (I repeat – do not!) feel guilty in any way or that you have to explain anything. I’ll tell ya something about people – your true friends and loved ones will be HAPPY for you, that you are happy!
If they aren’t – then that shows their small-mindedness. But don’t let that detract from your joy. Screw them!! (lol)
I say – ENJOY!
Post # 6
@MrsFeatherbottom: I agree, why do you feel the need to explain? Its none of their business how you decide to spend your money, or if they want to assume other stuff like you went into debt or whatever, who cares. You’re the only one that needs to know the truth and live with your decision.
Post # 7
maybe she just doesn’t like that hotel. I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 8
You Dont need to explain your choice of venue to anyone. Its your day enjoy it!!!
Post # 9
Don’t worry about explaining yourself. If they’re happy for you awesome! if they’re jealous, it’s not like they’re gonna change their mind if you tell them how you saved or what a good deal you got.
Post # 10
It’s your wedding and you’ll cry if you want to! 😛 Seriously though, they should all just butt out!
Post # 11
If you’ve saved up hard, you deserve it. No explanation needed 🙂
Post # 12
Step 1: Don’t assume people are jealous of you. Just because one person gave you a weird vibe doesn’t mean everyone will. Personally I’d think you were bragging more talking about the good deal you got than just letting me know where it’s going to be at.
Step 2: If they are jealous, ignore ignore ignore.
Post # 13
I feel like I get that a lot, too which is so annoying. BUT, I just smile and nod and say “It’s going to be awesome.”
Post # 14
@Dizbee: No, I’m not assuming jealousy–I know it when I see it. There are friends of mine who genuinly have been happy for me–and even helped me find the hotel! But with certain people who aren’t my friends I just get a weird feelings after telling them–and I never get that feeling when someone is actually happy for me.
Post # 15
@violet25: But with certain people who aren’t my friends I just get a weird feelings after telling them
You don’t have to explain yourself to anyone – especially people you don’t even consider friends.
Post # 16
@MrsFeatherbottom: Yes! This.
Congrats on finding an amazing location, regardless of what it cost you!