(Closed) How to prevent jealousy/being judged for location of wedding…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1237 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@violet25:  My opinion is that you don’t have to explain anything. This is your (you and your FI’s) wedding and you don’t owe anyone an explanation for how/why you chose your venue. 

Post # 4
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9887 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@violet25:  First of all – congratulations on finding the venue of your dreams and double congrats on the good bargain!

It really is such a bummer in life when people envy and are jealous, rather than being happy for your joy.

But, that is their problem – not yours!

Revel in the joy of your wedding.  DO NOT (I repeat – do not!) feel guilty in any way or that you have to explain anything.  I’ll tell ya something about people – your true friends and loved ones will be HAPPY for you, that you are happy!

If they aren’t – then that shows their small-mindedness.  But don’t let that detract from your joy.  Screw them!!   (lol)

😉

I say – ENJOY!

Post # 6
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14656 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@MrsFeatherbottom:  I agree, why do you feel the need to explain?  Its none of their business how you decide to spend your money, or if they want to assume other stuff like you went into debt or whatever, who cares.  You’re the only one that needs to know the truth and live with your decision.

Post # 7
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1882 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

maybe she just doesn’t like that hotel.  I wouldn’t worry about it.

Post # 8
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3828 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You Dont need to explain your choice of venue to anyone. Its your day enjoy it!!!

 

Post # 9
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1547 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

wow! congrats!

Don’t worry about explaining yourself. If they’re happy for you awesome! if they’re jealous, it’s not like they’re gonna change their mind if you tell them how you saved or what a good deal you got.

Post # 10
Hostess
23597 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

It’s your wedding and you’ll cry if you want to! 😛  Seriously though, they should all just butt out!

Post # 11
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2699 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If you’ve saved up hard, you deserve it. No explanation needed 🙂

Post # 12
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721 posts
Busy bee

Step 1:  Don’t assume people are jealous of you.  Just because one person gave you a weird vibe doesn’t mean everyone will.  Personally I’d think you were bragging more talking about the good deal you got than just letting me know where it’s going to be at.

Step 2:  If they are jealous, ignore ignore ignore. 

Post # 13
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3120 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I feel like I get that a lot, too which is so annoying.  BUT, I just smile and nod and say “It’s going to be awesome.”

Post # 15
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5073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@violet25:  But with certain people who aren’t my friends I just get a weird feelings after telling them

You don’t have to explain yourself to anyone – especially people you don’t even consider friends.

Post # 16
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955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@MrsFeatherbottom:  Yes! This.

Congrats on finding an amazing location, regardless of what it cost you!

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