Post # 1
Girls, I don’t know what to do. Firstly I should mention that I’m a very emotional person like, watch a sad commercial start crying type of emotional. I’m getting married this August and I’m afraid I won’t be able to contain myself as my father walks me down the aisle. I’m terribly afraid of the ugly cry all the way down the aisle.
Even when I imagine myself walking down the aisle I already start tearing up!! I attended FI’s cousin’s wedding a few months ago and as she was walking down the aisle i was bawling (mean while she was not). I was in my bestfriends wedding 2 years ago and I bawled down the aisle while she did not.
I don’t know what to do? Any suggestions or stories as to how you prevented yourself from doing the ugly cry all the way down the aisle? I’m doomed 🙁
Post # 3
It’s okay. It will happen, just try to incorporate a little smile :). Focus on also showing joy. Don’t worry, people know they are tears of joy!
It will make it that much more touching (you will probably get the hole crowd going, so you won’t be alone 😉
I am the excat same way! And as much as I want to prevent it, it will happen! Lol, just roll with it 🙂
Post # 4
LOL I was hoping this was a solution. I’m the same way. I get all redfaced and blotchy and it’s just gross.
Post # 5
@vorpalette: that. I thought it was a solution. But I know how to cry pretty though, lol. First of all, the key is be silent. Your face contorts when you start moaning and groaning. Close your eyes for a few seconds, but don’t squeeze them shut. When you open them, the tears will be flowing freely, but your facial muscles should have had a chance to relax. I tend to purse my lips to get myself under control, but I realized that if I DON’T do that, my face still looks pretty.
Post # 6
I find that my ugly cry comes when I try NOT to cry because my face gets all screwed up and I get all red trying to fight it. Just let it come. I literally had tears POURING down my face walking down the aisle but I was just smiling and beaming at the same time. The pictures actually look really pretty and in some, you can’t even tell my face is wet. LOL.
Post # 7
BUHP! I’m gonna need a solution to this as well!
Post # 8
I will have to blow my nose… OH GOD, lol. I really don’t want to do that in front of everyone!
Whenever I cry, I have to blow my nose…. Gah.
Post # 9
@O.My.Heart: Ughhhhh this, too. Red faced, blotchy, snotty nose. Attractive. Marry me, please.
Post # 10
@littlemiss604: Actually, I’ve read quite a few posts by ladies who have the same fears as you do, and many of them say that they were able to keep it together. I guess visualizing and actually doing it are two different things.
Kinda like if you have a fear of public speaking, you generally are able to perform better than you feared once you actually get up there.
Think about smudged makeup, red eyes, looking bad for the rest of the day etc. As you’re walking down the aisle, focus on something else than the actual moment. That’s what I’d do. If you start having thoughts like “I’m no longer daddy’s little girl” then you’ll lose it. Think stuff like “Keep your head high, chin up… let’s not ruin this expensive makeup! Let’s not become a blubbering idiot in front of all these guests! Let’s not cringe every time we re-watch the wedding footage! This is a happy occasion! Smile! It’ll be over soon!”. I dunno, that might help. You might be so nervous that you won’t cry. I’d probably be so worried about all those people staring at me that I wouldn’t cry… and I do cry fairly easily.
Worst case, if you do ‘ugly’ cry, what’s the worst that can happen??
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
Don’t worry about it!!! Seriously, if you’re worried about what facial expressions you’re making, you’ll miss the fleeting moments. I’m a BIG crier, and no doubt I cried as my dad began walking me down the aisle – but after a few moments, once I saw my DH at the end of the aisle, I began beaming with happiness. I think a lot of girls get that feeling. Don’t worry so much about it 🙂
Post # 12
@vorpalette: Oh lord yes. I get red and blotchy (and stay that way for like an hour) and my nose runs like niagra falls. It’s hawt. I’m terrified about walking down the aisle!
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You may be surprised. I cried every single time I read my vows, listened to my wedding music, or just generally imagined the wedding day before the wedding. Every. Time. On the day of, I had so much excitement and adrenaline I didn’t cry at all during the ceremony/reception. However, in general if I feel I’m about to cry and it’s not an appropriate time, I find that holding my breath several times really helps.
Post # 16
I’m just going to work on the basis that Fiance has seen me cry enough times to be immune to my ugly cry face. Heck, I was crying 5 mins ago (bridesmaids issues…) and he just told me not to worry because all that matters is the two of us and how he can’t wait to marry me. Then he handed me a tissue to wipe the snot away. It must be love.