(Closed) How to prevent the "Ugly Cry"

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It’s okay. It will happen, just try to incorporate a little smile :). Focus on also showing joy. Don’t worry, people know they are tears of joy!

 

 

 

It will make it that much more touching (you will probably get the hole crowd going, so you won’t be alone ๐Ÿ˜‰ 

 

 I am the excat same way! And as much as I want to prevent it, it will happen! Lol, just roll with it ๐Ÿ™‚

 

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

LOL I was hoping this was a solution. I’m the same way. I get all redfaced and blotchy and it’s just gross.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@vorpalette:  that. I thought it was a solution. But I know how to cry pretty though, lol. First of all, the key is be silent. Your face contorts when you start moaning and groaning. Close your eyes for a few seconds, but don’t squeeze them shut. When you open them, the tears will be flowing freely, but your facial muscles should have had a chance to relax. I tend to purse my lips to get myself under control, but I realized that if I DON’T do that, my face still looks pretty. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

I find that my ugly cry comes when I try NOT to cry because my face gets all screwed up and I get all red trying to fight it. Just let it come. I literally had tears POURING down my face walking down the aisle but I was just smiling and beaming at the same time. The pictures actually look really pretty and in some, you can’t even tell my face is wet. LOL.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

BUHP! I’m gonna need a solution to this as well!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I will have to blow my nose… OH GOD, lol. I really don’t want to do that in front of everyone!

Whenever I cry, I have to blow my nose…. Gah.

Post # 9
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11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@O.My.Heart:  Ughhhhh this, too. Red faced, blotchy, snotty nose. Attractive. Marry me, please.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@littlemiss604:  Actually, I’ve read quite a few posts by ladies who have the same fears as you do, and many of them say that they were able to keep it together. I guess visualizing and actually doing it are two different things.

Kinda like if you have a fear of public speaking, you generally are able to perform better than you feared once you actually get up there.

Think about smudged makeup, red eyes, looking bad for the rest of the day etc. As you’re walking down the aisle, focus on something else than the actual moment. That’s what I’d do. If you start having thoughts like “I’m no longer daddy’s little girl” then you’ll lose it. Think stuff like “Keep your head high, chin up… let’s not ruin this expensive makeup! Let’s not become a blubbering idiot in front of all these guests! Let’s not cringe every time we re-watch the wedding footage! This is a happy occasion! Smile! It’ll be over soon!”. I dunno, that might help. You might be so nervous that you won’t cry. I’d probably be so worried about all those people staring at me that I wouldn’t cry… and I do cry fairly easily.

Worst case, if you do ‘ugly’ cry, what’s the worst that can happen??

Post # 11
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1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

Don’t worry about it!!! Seriously, if you’re worried about what facial expressions you’re making, you’ll miss the fleeting moments. I’m a BIG crier, and no doubt I cried as my dad began walking me down the aisle – but after a few moments, once I saw my Darling Husband at the end of the aisle, I began beaming with happiness. I think a lot of girls get that feeling. Don’t worry so much about it ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@vorpalette:  Oh lord yes. I get red and blotchy (and stay that way for like an hour) and my nose runs like niagra falls. It’s hawt. I’m terrified about walking down the aisle!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

just use one of these:)

Post # 15
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334 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

You may be surprised. I cried every single time I read my vows, listened to my wedding music, or just generally imagined the wedding day before the wedding. Every. Time. On the day of, I had so much excitement and adrenaline I didn’t cry at all during the ceremony/reception. However, in general if I feel I’m about to cry and it’s not an appropriate time, I find that holding my breath several times really helps.

Post # 16
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Helper bee

I’m just going to work on the basis that Fiance has seen me cry enough times to be immune to my ugly cry face. Heck, I was crying 5 mins ago (bridesmaids issues…) and he just told me not to worry because all that matters is the two of us and how he can’t wait to marry me. Then he handed me a tissue to wipe the snot away. It must be love.

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