(Closed) How to prevent uninvited +1s from appearing?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I put ___ seats have been reserved in your honor.

and I filled out the number.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I also did what the PP did and of course just putting only their name on the invite. If they don’t get the point after that, then I don’t know what will 🙂

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I second tksjewelry.

I put the # of ppl on the RSVP card.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I put:

____ seats reserved in your honor.

_____ / _____ guest attending.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

That is exactly what we did. Be warned, you may have that occasional person with no etiquette that just doesn’t “get it”.

We received an RSVP back today with our number scratched through and they wrote in their own number! They even called to ask if they could bring an additional person, we said no space was limited and still, they did this! Umm, NOT OKAY!!!!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Explain to any single guest you think might bring a +1 that due to space and budget only people who are in realtionships can bring a +1.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We actually personalized each RSVP with specific names for example:

John Smith ___Accepts with pleasure___Declines with regret

Sarah Smith___Accepts with pleasure___Declines with regret

And still people didn’t get it even though it is just two people’s names there. They still added other names. So I am not sure this is something that you can avoid!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m having people RSVP through my wedding website.  The site asks them to enter a name from their party (which would be a name on the invitation) and then it brings up a page listing the people in their party, each of which has a place to check “attending” or “declined.”  It is absolutely impossible for people to add write-ins in this system. The only way people will be able to bring uninvited +1s to our attention would be by calling us and asking–in which case we will inform them that due to limited food and space, no +1s can be added.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

People will try to bring extras no matter what. Sigh. We have some extras brining extra vegetarians and if we have more than 5% (so… maybe only 7 or 8 people)–then our price per person goes up $20/head. FML. That’s $1000s for an extra person.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I feel like if people are telling you who they are bringing to your wedding (when they weren’t invited), you can tell them what to eat.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Elope.

Regardless of putting lines and numbers or wording like “You and ONLY you are invited to our wedding” people will STILL try to add extras to their RSVP because obviously it was just an oversight on your part and you meant to invited their step-daughter’s boyfriend and best friend. 🙂

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