Post # 1
Looks like a bunch of people have had problems with guests wanting to bring uninvited +1s. Is there a way to avoid this? What if you filled in the name of your invited guest(s) only on the RSVP card? I would think that at least it prevents anyone from sending back a nameless RSVP card accidentally. Would that be considered rude? Or should you write in a # of seats?
Post # 3
I put ___ seats have been reserved in your honor.
and I filled out the number.
Post # 4
I did what tksjewelry did.
Post # 5
I also did what the PP did and of course just putting only their name on the invite. If they don’t get the point after that, then I don’t know what will 🙂
Post # 6
I second tksjewelry.
I put the # of ppl on the RSVP card.
Post # 7
____ seats reserved in your honor.
_____ / _____ guest attending.
Post # 8
That is exactly what we did. Be warned, you may have that occasional person with no etiquette that just doesn’t “get it”.
We received an RSVP back today with our number scratched through and they wrote in their own number! They even called to ask if they could bring an additional person, we said no space was limited and still, they did this! Umm, NOT OKAY!!!!
Post # 9
Explain to any single guest you think might bring a +1 that due to space and budget only people who are in realtionships can bring a +1.
Post # 10
We actually personalized each RSVP with specific names for example:
John Smith ___Accepts with pleasure___Declines with regret
Sarah Smith___Accepts with pleasure___Declines with regret
And still people didn’t get it even though it is just two people’s names there. They still added other names. So I am not sure this is something that you can avoid!
Post # 11
I’m having people RSVP through my wedding website. The site asks them to enter a name from their party (which would be a name on the invitation) and then it brings up a page listing the people in their party, each of which has a place to check “attending” or “declined.” It is absolutely impossible for people to add write-ins in this system. The only way people will be able to bring uninvited +1s to our attention would be by calling us and asking–in which case we will inform them that due to limited food and space, no +1s can be added.
Post # 12
People will try to bring extras no matter what. Sigh. We have some extras brining extra vegetarians and if we have more than 5% (so… maybe only 7 or 8 people)–then our price per person goes up $20/head. FML. That’s $1000s for an extra person.
Post # 13
Sigh, I guess there’s no way, huh? I guess I’ll just call up people who don’t get the clue. THanks bees!
Post # 14
I feel like if people are telling you who they are bringing to your wedding (when they weren’t invited), you can tell them what to eat.
Post # 15
Regardless of putting lines and numbers or wording like “You and ONLY you are invited to our wedding” people will STILL try to add extras to their RSVP because obviously it was just an oversight on your part and you meant to invited their step-daughter’s boyfriend and best friend. 🙂