How to proceed after slight proposal disappointment?

posted 2 years ago in Proposals
Post # 2
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Blushing bee

You said it was planned shortly, but did you propose with a ring?  Or did you just happen to look around and say hey this is a nice time, and ask?

Honestly i find it romantic and sweet either way… i was just curious. You asked her to marry you when you saw a beautiful moment. I don’t see a point in redoing a proposal and I’m quite surprised she is making a big deal out of this. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Your proposal sounds lovely, I’m not sure why your fiancée is upset. If she wanted to dictate so many elements maybe she should have been the one proposing.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Wait. She’s mad because you didn’t spend long enough planning the proposal? Which turned out perfectly nice and romantic? Really?

You know what you should do? You should send her links to some of the threads on here about women who have been waiting ten years or more for their partners to propose and have gotten nothing but delays and false promises. Maybe that will convince her to be a little more grateful. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

She sounds pretty immature imo. It’s about the marriage not the proposal. Real life is not like the movies, she’ll get over it or she can continue to pout like a teenager that didn’t get her way. Either way I would not do a redo. The redo will never be your proposal so I don’t see the point. 

ETA: A bee just posted like a week ago that her so proposed with the ring tied to his lollygag. Maybe send her the link to THAT thread and she might gain some perspective. 

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

rugbyplayer :  

There are puh-lenty of women in the Waiting section of these boards who would give up chocolate for twenty years to get a heartfelt proposal like yours.

Well, maybe not twenty years, but, you get the idea.

Your fiancée is being ridiculous.  How old is she?

I echo pawneegoddess’ suggesstion:  invite your fiancée to spend some time perusing the Waiting boards.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

smalltownbigworld :  

And be sure to include the part about him using toilet paper to attach the ring to his member.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

sassy411 :  Holy crap! I must have missed that part in her thread. You would think that he would have invested in some pretty ribbon at least. But toilet paper? Ffs. 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

I also wanted to add your Fiance is being selfish by ruining this special time for you. Congrats on your engagement. 

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

smalltownbigworld :  

Yup, toilet paper.  A class act and hopeless romantic, that one.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

To be honest, she is being ridiculous. Your proposal sounds perfectly nice. There’s no reason a proposal should take longer to plan than the time it takes to get a ring! If you proposed without a ring, that’s probably the source of her disappointment and it would be a bit more understandable since the proposal and the ring are very linked in a lot of people’s minds. Is that the case? Otherwise, it sounds like she’s watched too many movies. 

She wanted to be totally surprised and yet also control the process right down to the length of time you spent planning for it??

And she’s upset because she ‘saw it coming’ – what are you meant to do, join the special forces and carry out a top secret mission?

“Also, she did not enjoy the day” – well unless you were doing an activity that you know she actually dislikes it sounds like that’s on her and her attitude.

I don’t get her. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017 - Maui, Hawaii

Could someone please link me to that penis proposal? Search isn’t working and I don’t know how I missed that gem!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

smalltownbigworld :  where is this thread?!

 

OP do not redo your proposal. If she isn’t ecstatic that you asked her to marry you – as in spend the rest of her life with you because you love her and chose her (and honestly, your proposal sounds sweet and thougtful), Id be questioning a lot in your position right now. She clearly doesn’t have her priorities straight 😕

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

You guys are so mean, you know it’a not real love without a Pinterest flash mob.

OP, seriously, it’s sweet that you want to do your best for her and see her happy, but make sure she’s in this for the right reasons. A proposal is not a show, it’s ultimately an agreement to get married. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

rugbyplayer :  She seems like she’s focusing on the wrong part. There’s nothing to apologize for or redo. 

Tell her to focus on planning the wedding, if she needs something elaborately planned.

The tp penis thread got deleted. The op took it down and then changed her avatar. She also gave an entirely different account of her proposal on a different thread. I think she wanted to disavow all knowledge of that fustercluck

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