Post # 1
(this is Lena’s brother)
I did some terrible things like taking her for granted and flirting and agreeing to stuff with other girls online but not actually going through with it, and not only did my girlfriend find out but she wants me to prove to her that I’m sorry and really love her. I really want her trust back! It’s a long distance relationship so I have no idea how to prove myself
Post # 3
As far as winning her trust back, that will just take time. As for showing her you are sorry, I think you should do something to show that you fully understand that what you did hurt her and why. How about writing her a nice letter? Just write about how you recognize how doing XYZ effected her in XYZ ways. Send the letter and some pretty flowers?
Post # 4
I think it would take a long time and alot of efford for me to regain trust in someone if I found out anything like that. You say you didn’t do anything but as far as she knows… well, she doesn’t know and being in a long distance relationship doesn’t help. I know what I’m talking about, my boyfriend was away for a year, and we did long distance and can be hard.
I think time ir your only answer, be nice to her, make sweet phone calls at unexpected hours, send her flowers or/and a letter, really open your heart to her, if you really meant it. And just give her space and time to learn to trust you again.
Really think about what you did, and realize why you did it, so it doesn’t happen again.
What would you do if it was a reverse situation? how would you forgive her?
Post # 5
@LenaAntoinette: Any bee on here will tell you that it will take time to win her trust back. In the meantime, do some soul searching and try to figure out why you flirted with other girls and took her for granted. Are you sure you want to be in a relationship? Long distance is hard and will only work if the both of you are truly committed to making it work.
I like the idea of sending her a note telling her how sorry you are and that you really care about her. It wouldn’t hurt to buy her a heart necklace. It doesn’t have to be expensive, it is the thought that counts. Attach a note to it saying she has your heart.